Done lurking, also escaping!

[ferret_friend]

Hello, first things first thank you to this wonderful forum for providing somewhere to be understood and supported.

I'm in my mid-twenties and am just now taking the steps I need to get out from under my family - my mother has an UPD. She parentified me before I was even a teenager and has depended on me for everything. I've been her caretaker, therapist, and wallet. I've finally realized enough is enough, I want my own life. I love her greatly and will always appreciate the good she did for me, but I can't stand the thought of my life passing me by any longer. I don't want to resent her. I've been secretly moving my stuff out of the house we've been staying in (a very long story) and in May I'll be moving out of state to live with my partner. It's scary but exciting. I've been looking at this forum to keep reminding myself I'm not a cruel person for taking care of myself, and finally decided to stop lurking and join.

So yeah, hello!

[coyote]

Hello and welcome ferret friend,
So glad you finally took the leap of faith and joined. You are certainly not a bad person for taking care of yourself. Your story is a common one here and you will find a lot of support. You will find the toolbox very informative. I'm sorry you need us but glad you found us.