Meditation To Combat Anxiety From NC; Anyone Had Any Luck?

[Artemis T]

I haven't really been counting the days since I last communicated with my ex, but I believe it's been about a little over 2 weeks. There are days where I feel absolutely fine and then suddenly it feels like my chest is seizing, and I feel the strongest compulsion to check his and his new gf's social media. Thankfully I haven't done that but I hate that the urge to is so strong and that I have such a physical compulsion to do so, when I know it's just going to cause me anguish. I'm not quite sure if there is a name for this behavior/compulsion outside of masochism?

Nonetheless a friend of mine suggested mediation, and I'm wondering if anyone on here has had luck with using mediation as a tool to maintain NC and combat the withdrawal symptoms that come from trying to sever co-dependency and trauma bonds.

[guitarman]

I hope you meant meditation not mediation.

I practice Mindfulness guided meditations and it has helped me to disconnect and detach from my uBPD/uNPD sister. All her demanding, waif like behaviour and threats to harm herself affect my own mental and physical health. I realise that I need to look after me.

I follow the teachings of Tara Brach online. She gives free talks regularly on YouTube. She teaches Mindfulness.

Her website is www.tarabrach.com

I also follow the author and counsellor Kris Godinez who specialises in Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome. She also gives regular talks on her YouTube channel "We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez".

It's not surprising that you are still anxious and want to know what your ex is up to. They were in your life for a long time. This is time to now concentrate on yourself and what you want. It's OK to look after yourself. Take time to rebuild your self esteem. Take small steps. Little by little things will change for you.

"Go live your life and live it well" - Kris Godinez

Best wishes

guitarman X

[Artemis T]

I meant 'meditation' 

[Findingmyvoice]

I had good results with meditation to combat anxiety when I was with exBPDw.
Helped me to get centered and wind down before bed time. 
I would also do it when out on walks with the dog or sometimes in the middle of the day on weekends.
I would just find a quiet place to sit, I used the headspace guided meditations and I found them very useful for sleep and general anxiety.

I used them a bit after I left, but I have not needed them at all in the last 6 or 8 months.
It's definitely worth a try to see if it helps for you.

Exercise and journaling helped too.