Hi all, I wanted to post this question on here to you to get your thoughts on it.
I recently had another set to with my mom... I posted three posts about it within this past week.
I’ve been thinking about the whole idea of rebuking a believer and the verses that pertain to this in the Bible. Still flushing this out a bit.
I also went back and read my initial boundary setting letter that started pretty much this whole thing three years ago. The issues are pretty much the same, bad talking my husband, calling me uncaring, contemptuous, having a bad attitude, insinuating there is something really wrong with me on a personal level, mad because I’m saying I can’t help them with their problems, disregarding my feelings and my voicing of my limits (they have it worse, she was busier at my age etc).
As time goes on our ability to communicate and the topics available is becoming narrower and narrower.
Basically I just want to say if you don’t have anything nice to say about me, my husband, the level of contact I AM giving, don’t say anything at all. And just say if they want to build the relationship up this is my basic requirement. No more complaining, no more saying I’m not doing/being enough. Full on if you can’t communicate nicely and respectfully don’t communicate at all.
I’m just thinking, I’ve rebuked even more outrageous behaviour in the past. Plus I have given them boundaries in written and verbal form with no change, only worsening behaviour. The bible talks about rebuking, rebuking a second time, if it’s still happening to have nothing to do with them.
What are your thoughts? I’m getting to the end of my rope.