My Story

[2_exhausted]

I do not know if I am able to reveal it all. I am embarrassed by what I allowed.
.... I met uNPD 10 years ago. He told me he was divorced from a Crazy wife. He had a S with a lot of issues (ADHD,ODD, etc). We lived 2 hours apart. Long story short, I could not figure out why he was so afraid of Xwife. She was too much involved. I was not allowed to meet S for at least a year. Somehow, xwife obtained my cell number and email....she started to call and email me. It was very bizarre. He told her my occupation and where I lived. She called my employer and attempted to have my professional license revoked.   After 2 plus years of this, he stopped talking to me.  Total no contact.......He went back to xwife...they were never divorced. I was very hurt and shocked as I saw a divorce decree in his desk....I later learned in my particular state the legal separation paper looks like a divorce decree.

He was abusive during this time...playing phone games, withholding affection, it was all about him. He abused drugs, and also had a professional license. There is always the potential of a drug screen. As in my prior post, money was always an issue, with him being very cheap. I have a physical disability & when I would fall, he would lose it.....screaming at me, throwing me out of his house.  As I write this, I am wondering why I put up with it. Plus I was having to deal with a person I thought he was divorced from.. she was stalking me(she refused to work, and later it was revealed she never graduated from high school).

Three years later I received a text from him.....she suicided 😵. It is terrible. She used a gun which is atypical for females. He was relieved. This also stunned me.

[Cascade]

It sounds like they both had serious issues. Please stay away from him as he might try to win you back at this point.