From the sidelines

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PeanutButter

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From the sidelines
« on: June 11, 2019, 05:21:05 PM »
Hi I am finally reaching out for connections. I have been reading everything on the site and following all the boards for quite a while now. It has helped so much that I am very thankful. Although the old me would have stayed on the sidelines because joining in the discussions is outside my comfort zone I am determined to change this type of thought pattern "that I have nothing to offer that would help anyone".  I now see that I have been unconsciously repeating my origional trama relationship with my uBPDMother.  My uNPDexH picked up the abuse of me right where uBPDM left off when she kicked me out of "her" house. In fact I now see that they both acted in similar abusive ways. Thanks to all who read this and/or respond. Thanks to all who make up this community which has changed my life forever for the better already.

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Bloomie

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Re: From the sidelines
« Reply #1 on: June 11, 2019, 06:55:40 PM »
PeanutButter - so thankful you have officially joined this amazing community! I am glad it has been a help to your so far in your healing journey. I am also really glad that you have spoken back to those negative and untrue messages and I look forward to your contributions here.

See ya out there on the boards!
Bloomie 🌸

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guitarman

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Re: From the sidelines
« Reply #2 on: June 12, 2019, 12:30:46 AM »
Welcome. You are not alone.

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"Do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace." - Dalai Lama

"You don't have to be a part of it, you can become apart from it." - guitarman

"Be gentle with yourself, you're doing the best you can." - Anon

"If it hurts it isn't love." - Kris Godinez, counsellor and author

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PeanutButter

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Re: From the sidelines
« Reply #3 on: June 12, 2019, 01:43:03 PM »
Thank you both so very much.

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treesgrowslowly

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Re: From the sidelines
« Reply #4 on: June 12, 2019, 11:27:32 PM »
Hi peanutbutter,

Welcome! You've already shared something of value with your first post- You're on your way to breaking the thought pattern...it takes time and patience with yourself.

It takes a lot of courage to do this work. Welcome.

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PeanutButter

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Re: From the sidelines
« Reply #5 on: June 13, 2019, 09:29:19 AM »
 Hi treesgrowslowly. Thank you for you kind words!
« Last Edit: June 13, 2019, 09:31:07 AM by PeanutButter »

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Re: From the sidelines
« Reply #6 on: June 15, 2019, 10:31:52 AM »
Hi PeanutButter,

I have repeating the same....uBPD mom with NPD males, for years.  I of coarse rejected the healthy loving relationships....and part if not most was due to my mom......the struggle is real.

I think/feel this forum is the way to heal..

Hugs.

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PeanutButter

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Re: From the sidelines
« Reply #7 on: June 15, 2019, 11:42:01 AM »
Thanks 2_exhausted. Im sorry you have experienced similar too. But thank you for sharing with me.  It feels validating to hear and helps soo much.