Frances29, how did you get him out of the bedroom?
I wanted him out for a long time before I finally got him out; he snores, has sleep apnea and had gained 50 pounds before I kicked him out of the bedroom, he's a heavy binge drinker, denying he is an alcoholic..because he doesn't drink every day... So, 4 nights a week he was passed out drunk, sweating, making the bed hot, flailing around the bed, hitting me in his sleep, he was snoring, gasping, he also punches out and kicks in his sleep. The nights he doesn't drink he is hungover, and can barely sleep, rolling around, restless, and had absolutely
ZERO care in the world if I slept or not, but I was TO SLEEP NEXT TO HIM NO MATTER WHAT. And I put up with that for about 10 years. **I am an extremely light sleeper and he woke me several times a night for 10 years, even if our kids slept all night, DH would wake me, turning on his iphone to light up the whole room...literally did not care that I was now awake for the rest of the night after he liked a few things on Facebook at 3 am..he would pass right back out.
Needless-to-say when I told him he kicked, punched, snored in his sleep, he didn't believe me. He would whine and mope,
"you just want me out of the bedroom," which
YES I did as he was 'working from home' and no longer had an office to go to, no longer had coworkers, no longer had work dinners, no more business trips, was
home all day, home all night. Of course I needed SOME space for MYSELF. To boot I make more money...and have always worked from home.
How I got him out; What I did was videotape him, snoring and punching out in his sleep. Showed it to him, then moved all his things to the guest room. Even after sleeping in the guest room, he could not refrain from disturbing me in the early morning hours, it was a way to show me who was boss I guess, in a passive aggressive way. So, he would come into the master bedroom at 5-6-7 am if I was alseep, to use the master bathroom shower (when there was a bathroom in the guest room)..then he would rummage thru the closet slamming closet doors, even when I had a baby in bed with me...
So, after one too many mornings like this, I moved all his toiletries, and clothing into the guest room, and said now you don't have to wake me up at 5-6-7 am and that was that. 9 years he's been out..
My bedroom is the only place I can go in the home to get away from him..he has no hobbies, he works outside the home maybe 2-3-4 days a week, mostly just 3 days and he still drinks .. and I don't drink, and I never have..I do not want to hijack the thread. But, that's how I got him out/and why..