I agree - one way or the other, this "friendship" was going to end, with one of you unfriending the other - you just headed her off at the pass.

Beware - if she's anything like people I've unfriended IRL, she's probably *not* going to take it well. Just ignore anything she tries saying or doing (smear campaign, getting others to shun you), and carry on.

In college, 2 young women I'd been tight with decided they didn't want me around anymore - they didn't say anything, they just started actively avoiding me.

Okay - I know this one. I'm not going to play fawning puppy, so I stayed away from them and got on with things.

Suddenly I'm hearing that these two women can't say enough bad things about me. I shrugged and said, "They don't want to hang around with me, so I don't know why they won't stop talking about me...anyway..." - and I'd change the subject.

Inside, I was seething, but I wasn't going to give *them* the pleasure of knowing it. In the circle I hung with, we just didn't talk about them or what they were saying, since I wasn't making a big deal out of it, and *acted like it was no skin off my nose.* People will gossip - and I don't want to be a part of it.

Six months later, we all wound up in the same class together and we had to do a project in teams. *Both* of them approached me about being on the same team, and I rebuffed them. Sorry. I've already got another team.

In other words, I was *done* - but for some reason, they hadn't moved on, because in Their World, THEY do the discarding - not *me.*

I knew *that* was probably the only reason they wanted me on the team - so they could discard me at the end of it, after filling me with the false hope of friendship again.
Sorry - not playing that game, either.

If the woman starts making comments to others about you unfriending her, and somebody says something to you, I'd just smile, shake my head, and say, "I don't understand why she's upset, because we were ever actually friends...anyway..." - and change the subject.

It'll probably become a non-issue a lot faster than you think.
