It truly is a crying shame that we nonPDs have given our trust and love to our significant others. Then, they slowly or quickly change to their Scrooge selves. We give, give, and give more, only to be taken. “What about us? What about trust? What about love?” As a singer sang.
My PDw said at the beginning that she was the only one who ever loved me, etc. She said family is everything, that her previous husband was always too busy for her and their kids. NOW, she doesn’t have time to have a relationship with me. She only cooks. She is also too busy. When I reminded her of what she said and felt unloved, she said: “Now, I understand why he did what he did”.
So, I have focused more time in my own family and work, although I would give up at least half of the work, if we could have a relationship again. Nevertheless, I really don’t see that happening, even after her studies, which will only mean her focusing on more work related to her studies!