My mother passed away

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Dodo

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Re: My mother passed away
« Reply #60 on: April 16, 2020, 11:10:39 PM »
I too lost my Mom a year and 4 months ago.  My condolences to you as I know what you are going through and what you will go through.  My Mom was 87 and she and I were close, we would have a lot of laughs together as she had a wonderful sense of humour and miss telling things that would make her laugh, I always felt that she was the one that loved me unconditionally and this is what a Mother does, so hard a loss.  All the best to you in your healing journey.

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guitarman

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Re: My mother passed away
« Reply #61 on: May 19, 2020, 06:31:48 PM »
Thank you.

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guitarman

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Re: My mother passed away
« Reply #62 on: May 20, 2020, 06:34:51 AM »
Iím not feeling so good today. My uBPD/NPD sister called me but I didnít answer. I havenít heard from her for over six months.

She rang another sibling. She has sent an email to our sibling that was forwarded to me as well. It was full of rage and historical inaccuracies. She wants money.

I didnít read all of the email. I already get triggered by so many things now this has sent me into a panic. My sibling has replied to her email but I didnít read it all. They are getting into an argument and itís like they are shouting at each other, which my sister does in real life.

I canít have anything more to do with her for my own sanity and well-being.
"Do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace." - Dalai Lama

"You don't have to be a part of it, you can become apart from it." - guitarman

"Be gentle with yourself, you're doing the best you can." - Anon

"If it hurts it isn't love." - Kris Godinez, counsellor and author

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blacksheep7

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Re: My mother passed away
« Reply #63 on: May 20, 2020, 12:16:06 PM »
 Hi guitarman,

I'm sorry that you are going through this.  You have been a very patient and understanding man with your sister.  You always responded in the appropriate way that was best for you.

I understand that you've had enough. It always comes down to a question of sanity and well being.  I don't know if I would have lasted this long in having a similar relationship with a sibling like that.

Hats off to you.

take care
« Last Edit: May 20, 2020, 12:32:54 PM by blacksheep7 »
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nanotech

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Re: My mother passed away
« Reply #64 on: May 20, 2020, 10:57:32 PM »
Just ignore it, itís her stuff not yours -and I always find that deleting unwanted messages helps a lot.
I delete anything my UNPDbrother sends me on text, as itís very passive aggressive and designed to criticise and upset me.
To answer would be to allow him to trample my boundaries. So I donít.
It doesnít have to stay in your inbox. I think if it were me I would block her emails.
I have to keep my brother on texts because of my elderly dad. But heís blocked on Facebook as heís FAR  too mean on there. Heís fumed about that for months . Yeah well, your fault bro. :tongue2:
Iím sending you some hugs guitarman. 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗xxxxx
« Last Edit: May 20, 2020, 11:02:49 PM by nanotech »

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Re: My mother passed away
« Reply #65 on: May 21, 2020, 08:25:42 AM »
It was inevitable to hear from her eventually with full venom ready. So not your stuff like nanotech said. Disengage. Let them argue. Good you didn't bother to read the email.
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guitarman

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Re: My mother passed away
« Reply #66 on: June 07, 2020, 05:45:53 PM »
Thank you for your replies. My sister has legally delayed the probate process, so it is all paused at the moment. I'm letting my other siblings deal with it as I can't cope with it all. I trust them and they are very capable people. My doctor is going to call me tomorrow, so I might go back on antidepressants which I'm OK with. I took them for three years over a decade ago. I had a calm day today but can be triggered at any moment. I am currently watching Kris Godinez on YouTube. I make sure to watch her weekly live talks each Sunday.
"Do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace." - Dalai Lama

"You don't have to be a part of it, you can become apart from it." - guitarman

"Be gentle with yourself, you're doing the best you can." - Anon

"If it hurts it isn't love." - Kris Godinez, counsellor and author

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Re: My mother passed away
« Reply #67 on: June 08, 2020, 05:16:47 PM »
I'm sorry for your loss. She sounds like she was a beautiful person.

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guitarman

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Re: My mother passed away
« Reply #68 on: June 09, 2020, 06:02:03 AM »
Thank you. X
"Do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace." - Dalai Lama

"You don't have to be a part of it, you can become apart from it." - guitarman

"Be gentle with yourself, you're doing the best you can." - Anon

"If it hurts it isn't love." - Kris Godinez, counsellor and author