so lonely

[Ladymm]

I have also been like that. Had many friends. But I was always the one chasing these friends. Some left, some I don't contact. I don't need this depleting energy in my life.

In all thise relationship s, I was enmeshed. Don't want to do this no more. There is many people who are not so deep around. People connect because they want to be seen with somebody or because someone has some characteristic they would like to have.

I think a person can do many activities also by themselves. I am surely not a magnet for people. I started to think that also social connections like work or something count to fulfill the need for social connection. For deeper issues I found out it is better even sometimes to confide in a theapist than to friends. Because if you are too interconnected in the sense of solving and caring of each others issues, you quickly dissolve the boundaries. A therapist teaches you how to be more self reliant. If a crisis arise, or a lack of money, I think there are also many trained specialists where one can confide to.

I am a bit scared because I am alone, like in the sense what will come next. But now I dont have toxic friends, toxic family was also put to a lower contact and I dont feel so bad to be honest.

I had the need to have a net of friends to feel safe. But humans have a passing quality while what you van connect to internally, is reliable.

[Whitesheep45]

Lady mm
You make so many valid points
Thank u

[Ladymm]

Whitesheep,

you are welcome🙂 !