Did you set boundaries then realize not too many people remain?

[Honey_B]

Yes. As others have said, I've found that it is important to refocus relationships so that I give a bit more attention to those that have reciprocity and those that show they care about me too. I didn't learn to develop healthy relationships as a child, I think if anything I just learned to pander to narcissists and it is a hard thing to unlearn

This so much!
I never learned what a healthy friendship looks like when I was a child, so I had to relearn as an adult. I was always drawn to people I could "help" but never received much in return. Whereas I was being dismissive of people who wanted to return and took a real interest in me. I was much more comfortable being the giver.

It takes a long time to learn how to see people differently than what you were taught