Unintentional grey rock?

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rubixcube

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Unintentional grey rock?
« on: February 09, 2020, 09:43:04 PM »
Has anyone ever unintentionally gone grey rock or medium chill?

Maybe these toolbox techniques came out of natural reactions to PDs inability to address behavior problems?

I feel like the past year I've been MC and GRing just as a natural matter of survival.

My ucovertNPDw just asked to separate. It seems surreal, like everything I heard all of you old timers say when I came here in FOG is playing out exactly as you and the literature said it would. 

I think I naturally went GR and MC to avoid spending my life arguing, knowing conversation would go nowhere. What has your experience been as you came OOTF?

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Kat1984

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Re: Unintentional grey rock?
« Reply #1 on: February 10, 2020, 12:49:08 PM »
I'd been using MC and GR with my uPDsib for years.  Just didn't know it had a name until I came to this forum.   :D
Good luck, Rubixcube

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Lauren17

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Re: Unintentional grey rock?
« Reply #2 on: February 13, 2020, 01:04:27 AM »
I think that MC and Grey Rock can become a habit, just like most behaviors. I’ve found that especially with MC.

I hope you are doing ok with the separation request. I’m guessing that came as a surprise.
“You held me down, but I got up.
Get ready, ‘cause I’ve had enough.”
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fish2019

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Re: Unintentional grey rock?
« Reply #3 on: February 16, 2020, 06:08:21 PM »
I agree, I think the worse they treat us the more we just kind of break and become lifeless... which mimics grey rock in a way I guess. I was so broken by the end that I had become totally withdrawn and quiet. Now I'm out of that situation it's crazy how different I am, it's like he completely drained the life out of me.

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FreeSophia

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Re: Unintentional grey rock?
« Reply #4 on: February 18, 2020, 02:53:40 PM »
yes, absolutely. I lived for years in a state of grey rock, MC.