The narc games continue...

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fish2019

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The narc games continue...
« on: February 15, 2020, 02:13:55 PM »
I was contacted by my NPD ex recently, to be polite I asked him how his vacation he was on was going. His response was to tell me that there were some photos on his Instagram 'I could like if I wanted to *wink face*'

 I thought to myself... why would he want that? What would he gain out of me doing that? So, purely as a social experiment I liked the most recent few.

A couple of hours later, there was a text message in the blocked folder on my phone from his new girlfriend (he cheated on me with her and then discarded me for her). She told me she was really happy that my ex and I friends again, that she wouldn't let their relationship stand in the way of our special bond. and that she thought I was such a wonderful person.

Personally, I read that message as 'I'm really not happy that you're speaking and I'm going to message you to make sure you know that we're in a relationship. And if I act super nice to you then maybe he won't sleep with you behind my back.'

I didn't respond and I'm staying from them both now. But... I thought it was a really clear demonstration of how they like to use us as human chess pieces to play their mind games. It helped clarify a little bit what I've been dealing with - two narcs.

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Associate of Daniel

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Re: The narc games continue...
« Reply #1 on: February 15, 2020, 05:14:24 PM »
It certainly sounds like 2 narcs.  And it sounds like the same situation I am in.

If you have children with him, beware of her.

It's interesting to do these little tests now and then.  They remind us of what we're dealing with and confirm that we're not imagining all the craziness.

AOD

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fish2019

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Re: The narc games continue...
« Reply #2 on: February 15, 2020, 06:07:17 PM »
Luckily, we never had children. He used me wanting children (eventually) as the excuse when the new girlfriend asked why we broke up.  Sorry to hear you're in the same situation  :-(

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Re: The narc games continue...
« Reply #3 on: February 16, 2020, 02:36:58 PM »
They do this to create drama. The hurt and ups and downs feed them. We try to be kind and amicable in hopes of a healthy future. They like the drama. It excites them. Ick. I'm sorry. :(