Possible awareness of my uBPDM?

[Maxtrem]

On Sunday I called my mother to wish her Happy Mother's Day. The first thing she said to me was: you're nice to call even though I haven't been a good mother. I didn't go into the subject and the conversation was pleasant. Could it be that she really had a realization? Or is she playing her eternal pitiful victim character? Have any of you experienced this? My mother had always presented herself as a great mother 

[Call Me Cordelia]

That sounds like a cue for you to deny that she was not a good mother. Build up her insecurities for her. I'm glad you didn't go there.

[Thru the Rain]

Could it be that she really had a realization? Or is she playing her eternal pitiful victim character? Have any of you experienced this?

I've experienced this and I would guess it's the Eternal Pitiful Victim 

My uPDM does this all the time, and what she seems to really want is the "Oh No! You did the best you could you poor thing."

And I used to give her that exact reaction before coming Out of the FOG. Now she gets stony silence from my side of the phone.

I didn't set out to give her flat silence as a reaction, but when I first started to recognize the pattern, I was literally speechless when she trotted these lines out. I've since realized that she drops the whole act if I just let silence sit. She can last an entire 5 seconds before she jumps back in to change the subject herself.

[Duck]

I agree with those who say it is a cue for you to contradict her.

[Maxtrem]

Thank you for your answers, you confirm what I thought!