I need help!!!!

[Mobius123]

My SO is diagnosed BPD. Over the years it’s been fight after fight. We mad the decision to marry back in october. Recently she’s been sexting other guys and staying out late at night with my neighbors. She’s been abusive towards me and my son who’s 1. She screams she wants a divorce and wants to move out but doesn’t realize what she’s doing to our family. She sleeps in her room and I sleep in the basement. She won’t let me touch her or come near her. She is Un medicated. I have a ton of latuda in our Safe that she says she doesn’t need. What do I do. I honestly do not want my marriage to end.

[bloomie]

Hi and welcome. I am so sorry things are so unstable and that you and your little one are living in an environment that is unsafe. Things sound really hard right now. I want to offer you a couple of resources, but I also want to encourage you to put the safety and wellbeing of you and your child first. It seems like a very high risk situation.

The thing that may the most helpful for you is to talk with a domestic violence counselor in your local area and run by someone in real life some of the things you are experiencing so that they can help you assess the risk your and your baby of further abuse and mistreatment.

A therapist is another resource that would be support for you as you strive to make wise decisions that center on caring for your child, who is innocent and counting on you to protect them. Your SO is an adult and can get help and seek treatment for herself if it comes down to it.

A couple of important links:

https://www.outofthefog.website/emergency/
https://outofthefog.website/what-to-do-2/2015/12/3/put-children-first
https://www.thehotline.org

You are not alone and reaching out here is a great first step. We can support you and we will, but the circumstances you describe here are serious enough to warrant you also reaching out to your local services and getting some help.

Honestly, I say this gently, but I grew up with a mother who I believe was undiagnosed BPD and addicted to prescription drugs and I know first hand the damage this kind of chaotic and abusive behavior can have.

Let us know how you are doing as you are able.