Idiot Compassion

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Idiot Compassion
« on: September 18, 2020, 09:32:55 AM »
Idiot Compassion

A link to a webpage about a quote from Pema Chödron that explains "idiot compassion"

The quote is taken from her book called "The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times".
"Do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace." - Dalai Lama

"You don't have to be a part of it, you can become apart from it." - guitarman

"Be gentle with yourself, you're doing the best you can." - Anon

"If it hurts it isn't love." - Kris Godinez, counsellor and author



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Re: Idiot Compassion
« Reply #1 on: September 21, 2020, 09:56:08 AM »
Thanks for posting that guitarman.

I think that it's codependent to give more compassion to someone than they are giving to us.

Our own desire to be compassionate is what entangles us a lot of the time.

In another part of that book I believe she talks about people getting their hooks into us. Once we are entangled, a lot of us believe that compassion will fix the situation. So we give more.  When in reality it is boundaries -saying enough -  that is needed after entanglement.

This language of 'idiot' compassion is sort of condescending. I think in her recordings you can see she uses this language to endear herself and sometimes it works. I guess she wants people to feel like its ok to feel like 'an idiot' at times.  But our lack of boundaries at a given time in our life was not because we were an idiot. It was because we didn't see that this other person was not what the said they were.