Thanks for posting that guitarman.
I think that it's codependent to give more compassion to someone than they are giving to us.
Our own desire to be compassionate is what entangles us a lot of the time.
In another part of that book I believe she talks about people getting their hooks into us. Once we are entangled, a lot of us believe that compassion will fix the situation. So we give more. When in reality it is boundaries -saying enough - that is needed after entanglement.
This language of 'idiot' compassion is sort of condescending. I think in her recordings you can see she uses this language to endear herself and sometimes it works. I guess she wants people to feel like its ok to feel like 'an idiot' at times. But our lack of boundaries at a given time in our life was not because we were an idiot. It was because we didn't see that this other person was not what the said they were.
Trees
