Disconnecting from friends and relieved

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Mintstripes

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Re: Disconnecting from friends and relieved
« Reply #20 on: November 01, 2020, 07:37:22 PM »
A little update:

I was reflecting on the loss of the 2 friendships I mentioned in my original post and I am feeling much freer. The drama and weird “frenemy” dynamic was weighing me down.

I also did not reach out to anyone and only responded succinctly the few times I was contacted (I mentioned the curt messages I’ve received often, so why should I bother writing a whole thing if others don’t?) I didn’t go out of my way, and my phone was very quiet but I was proud for not falling back on old patterns. I did not rush to respond either and took several days, since apparently no one has a problem doing that with me.

I had a great week though. DD and I did a ton of fun Halloween activities. I participated in some fun virtual activities that were held by my university. I interacted with some new people. I had some pleasant exchanges with classmates.

I put the two of us first and felt stronger in my resolve to not accept people’s crumbs or chase them.

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« Last Edit: November 01, 2020, 07:41:10 PM by Mintstripes »

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notrightinthehead

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Re: Disconnecting from friends and relieved
« Reply #21 on: November 02, 2020, 05:12:59 AM »
Well done!
I also take other people's response time and style as a guideline on how they want to interact with me. If they take days to come back to me, I also give them the space. If they send very brief notes, I restrain myself and am equally brief.
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Re: Disconnecting from friends and relieved
« Reply #22 on: November 02, 2020, 12:22:06 PM »
Well done!
I also take other people's response time and style as a guideline on how they want to interact with me. If they take days to come back to me, I also give them the space. If they send very brief notes, I restrain myself and am equally brief.

Thanks, notright. Admittedly, itís been hard for me. I detest ďplaying gamesĒ and Iím pretty WYSIWYG but I also realized that I needed to adjust my communication style with certain people. I think part of why itís so hard is because Iím starved for human interaction and meaningful conversation.