Is going NC cowardly and/or passive?

[Starboard Song]

That's right. That's why we abandon the normal rules of engagement as necessary to protect ourselves.

[zak]

You've had so much great advice and support in the many replies to your post. I just wanted to say thanks for posting as it's been therapeutic reading all of the replies, and just what I needed to hear right now. I've been NC with uNPDM since mid-2105 and have never for one minute regretted my decision. It's just some times, who really knows why, I get to feeling despondent that others have 'normal' relationships with their parent while I don't. I honestly know I don't miss her, but I miss the idea of a mother. I don't think NC is a sliver bullet but it does buy you a whole lot of peace and freedom and space to heal. I didn't have an exit discussion with my mother either, and I'm so glad you raised this here, as recently I have been feeling that I was a coward not to have explained my decision. I sincerely needed to hear the collective wisdom of those in this community. The journey goes on...

[feelingandhealing]

it's been therapeutic reading all of the replies

Yes! It absolutely and positively has.  and the sense of community is very strong within this thread. Thanks to everyone for reading and feeling and aiding with our healing.

It hurts not to have had a 'normal' relationship with a parent.  I think I am finally feeling the grief, sadness and anger that comes from that situation. Your replies, as well as being NC, are greatly aiding myself mentally, emotionally and spiritually.