How can i get him to leave the house?

[Evie3663]

I have known my husband is NPD for about 10 years, it has taken me this long to come to terms with the fact i have to leave him.  Im ready now.  However my elderly mother and adult daughter and our dog also live in this house and i cant easily follow the "planned exit and no contact" strategy as it would be all four of us leaving and i have no idea where we could go.  He is home all the time so no chance to do anything in secret. Mum and Daughter are aware of the situation. Also i have a business from home and need all my equipment to keep earning a living. It makes more sense for him to leave...Any ideas please for this situation?   He will be devastated and likely it will turn very nasty so any insights would be appreciated.

[losingmyself]

I think Escapingman worked this out. Hopefully he'll give you some insights.
I was lucky as it was only me, and I could leave for a time so he could move his belongings out

[escapingman]

As losingmyself said I did. But you need to have your evudence and I don't know the laws where you live. I started writing down everything that happened and took voice recordings. I then applied for a non molestation order and to have xw removed from the house. I had to leave for a week to avoid her anger during the process but I got her out and have not seen her in a year.

Good luck, I know your pain.

[Evie3663]

Thank you, escapingman.  I have read some of your other posts and i really feel for you, i am glad you got through it in the end.  I will take onboard your suggestion to document any abuse and potentially get the police involved as a last resort.  At the moment my uNPDstbxh  ( did i get it right? ) is being very careful to behave polite,  while i use my illness as an excuse to lie low.  I am not looking forward to the next part of my journey and top priority is to get my health back in order, im going to need all my energy.

[PlantFlowersNotWeeds]

My situation was different - in order to get my ex to agree to sell the house,  I had to make it uncomfortable for him.  I drew hard boundaries - he couldn't eat the food I bought, I hid the cable box, I didn't invite him to eat dinner with my son and I if I cooked, I stopped his auto insurance, I took any credit cards he had, etc....    After a few months and a new supply, he agreed to sell the house.

Somehow, your spouse has to see that moving out is advantageous for him.  Then he'll leave.