uNPD/HPD Mom Likely Dying and I broke NC pt. 3

[completelyperdue]

My uNPD/HPD mom is gone now...She died at least peacefully at home after being transferred from the hospital to hospice care.
Not quite sure what to feel atm.
Just feeling anger right now since the ex-con boyfriend did something not even minutes after my uNPD/HPD mom's passing that would shock and probably anger anyone. I'm just going to leave it at that since I'm still processing things.
I think it's just going to take time to process everything and then to begin moving forward in my life and my healing.
Thanks everyone for the support throughout the situation. It really has meant a lot.

[moglow]

Sounds like it's not over and I'm sorry. Don't waste your time and energy on his stuff for one more minute. You don't have ties to that man.

You have your own mourning to do and that's nothing to do with him. Whatever was between you and your mother, it's still a loss. With or without her, that's a loss to be dealt with.

Always here with you.

[Poison Ivy]

It's hard when family members die. Whether they were good people or weren't good people, they were family.

[Blueberry Pancakes]

Very sorry for your loss. I agree with Moglow "Whatever was between you and your mother, it's still a loss. With or without her, that's a loss to be dealt with."

[completelyperdue]

Thank you everyone for your kind words. My non-PD sister took things a bit rough last night since she was there when my uNPD/HPD mother passed and having to deal with the unfortunate aftermath of things. She was a mess, which is completely understandable considering that is a tough thing for anyone to see.

I've pretty much taken on my assigned parental role for her by being a shoulder to cry on and getting things together like paperwork and starting to get other things rolling. Her partners are also being very supportive of her since she is away from home right now.

I processed things as much as I could yesterday by starting to write things like the obituary, what I will likely say at my uNPD/HPD mother's service if we choose to have one, and going through the mounds of financial paperwork my sister was able to get before leaving my uNPD/HPD mother's house last night.

All I can say this morning is that I feel completely relieved that my uNPD/HPD mother is gone. I know this is a common emotion amongst a lot of us who have had to deal with PDs in our lives. I know for my non-PD sister and myself that this is where we truly start healing and moving forward in our lives without our uNPD/HPD mother hanging over us.

Thank you again everyone, and serious thanks go to the administrators of this site. I have turned here during times of crisis whether that was from my uNPD/ASPD ex-husband or my uNPD/HPD mother, and I cannot be more grateful for a site like this where myself and others have gotten so much support.

 

[Brooke]

I'm so sorry for your loss, @completelyperdue. I can only imagine the conflicting feelings for you and your sister. I know that's what it will be for me and my sister when my mom goes.

How's it going with writing the obituary and your comments for the service?

Keeping you in my thoughts.