Narcissistic husband? How to recognize and react?

[Kla4]

Hello, I really need help, please. After our son was born 5 years ago, my husband tries to find any possible ways to remove my motherly rights. It is a nightmare that I am going through. The husband is very manipulative and has this idea of possessing our son and wants to keep him just to himself. Struggling for 5 years. No help from nowhere. It seems that specialists, that I talked to, think that I am just crazy. This is what my husband wants them to believe also. Lawyers just want money. As son grows, it gets harder and harder to deal with this situation.

[Kla4]

Thank you, for your support and reply.

It is difficult to describe what is all happening in my life. I need to write a book about it, probably, several books.

I am not separated from my son yet. A year ago my husband with his lawyer filed papers into the court requesting my motherly rights being removed. Later he removed his request, but he threatens me on a daily basis to do it again.

He finds all possible reasons: the child banged his knee, the child nose is running, the child has an ear ache, the child has some cavities, the child is not listening, and on and on.... This list can go forever. In his words: "YOU ARE THE WORST MOTHER IN THE WORLD". I hear it and get text messages on a daily basis.
The most horrible thing is that he makes up stuff about me that I abuse our child, and his lawyer supports him. I think it should be illegal to accuse someone falsely. But my husband tells me: "I will tell everyone that you are mentally ill, and horrible mother. Who do you think they will believe: me or your stupid accent?" It is true that I have a foreign accent, and husband can be very sweet and charming. It is true that people easily fall in his net, and very charmed by him, thinking what a nice person he is, and believe every word of his. In reality he is just a manipulator who used me to have a child and now wants to get rid of me. He told me this: "I need to get rid of you". Child loves me, and constantly wants to hug me. My husband is very upset about it and tells him to stop. The child does not obey, and continues to love me... Except the moments when my husband grabs him, locks him in his room, and tells him how mommy is bad and sick.

I think that my husband is mentally ill. This is the reason he is doing all this. If he is not sick, then he is just a monster.

My husband threatens me that if he will divorce me he will fight and do everything possible to take our son away from me. And I see how easy it is done, how easy it is to accuse anyone of anything. I see how nicely people think about my husband. He is spreading lies about me ("being the most horrible mother") around his family, friends, teachers, and they just blindly believe it.
He is not capable of taking care of our son even for one day. It happened recently, I had a cold or flu, so had to quarantine myself. My husband cannot help him with right clothing, he cannot feed him well, he cannot help him with his homework, he cannot put him to sleep on time. He just can sit and watch cartoons all day long with him. His excuse was:"The child doesn't listen to me. Something is wrong with him. We need to bring him to psychiatrist for an evaluation".

Sorry for such a long writing. You know, what you just read it is not even a tip of an iceberg, those are just some snowflakes. You cannot imagine what is happening.

I even spoke to police. I see that they are just people. I could see if they will ever talk to my husband they easily will fall into his "nice" nets and he can turn them against me. Maybe I am mistaken, and should give it a try... But I read many stories where children are removed from mother by manipulative husband, and nothing they could do about it.

How is it possible? Why? Not a single mother on Earth deserves this. What should be the happiest time of my life: raising a child, be with my child, enjoying my child, all of these moments my husband turned into a nightmare, and depriving me from happiness.

And he thinks he has the right to do it with no consequences.

If someone would have told me this 5 years ago, I would have said that it is not possible, that it is an absurd.
I cannot believe that this is all actually happening to me. It is all a nightmare. I am continuing to do the research and taking care of the child. I am trapped, and don't know the way out.