Chaos Manufacture - Chaos Manufacture is the practice of unnecessarily creating or maintaining an environment of risk, destruction, confusion or mess.
Description:
If you fear picking up the phone or coming home to a family member or spouse because you have no idea what might greet you, it is possible that you are dealing with a chaos manufacturer.
Not everybody wants peace. Some people actively generate chaotic situations in their lives and in the lives of those around them.
Chaos Manufacture is commonly associated with Histrionic Personality Disorder. People who suffer from HPD sometimes engage in destructive behaviors in an attempt to feel control over their environment or control over their relationships. These behaviors sometimes appear random or illogical to outsiders.
Chaos Manufacture is also common among those who suffer from Antisocial Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. These people sometimes derive pleasure out of inflicting hurt or struggle on other people, animals or objects.
Chaos Manufacture behaviors are sometimes interpreted by others as a "cry for help." However, not all people who manufacture chaos are motivated by the desire to gain attention from others. Some try to hide the chaos they create and feel a sense of shame about it. Some to create chaos in an attempt to generate internal feelings of being important or in control. Some generate chaos as a form of recreation with little regard to the reactions or needs of others.
Examples of Chaos Manufacture:
Destruction or inappropriate disposal of property.
Theft from family members or from strangers.
Reckless driving.
Suicide attempts & self harm.
Having an affair in view of the other partner.
Acts of cruelty.
Baiting outsiders and bystanders into a conflict.
Calling emergency services such as fire, police or ambulance over a minor or non-existent problem.
If you're living with somebody who manufactures chaos, you may feel helpless and powerless.
You may have tried all sorts of arguments to try to get the personality disordered person in your life to see the error of their ways. You may have resorted to trying to manipulate their behavior by not doing or saying certain things around them.
You may foster a kind of secret life through work, friendships or activities away from the home which you try to protect from their influence.
It's common for victims of chaos manufacture to feel a sense of shame over not being able to get their world onto an even keel. Because of this sense of shame, they may gradually isolate themselves from supportive friends and family. They may avoid inviting others to their home for fear of what it will look like. They may avoid making plans with others out of a fear that their plans will be spoiled by a sudden crisis.
Coping with Chaos Manufacture:
Chaos Manufacture is a form of physical and emotional abuse. Even if the abuser is not intentionally targeting the victim, the behavior is still abusive. It is imperative to get the victim to a safer, more secure place and to limit the damage that can be done by the chaos manufacturer.
What NOT to Do:
Don't spend your time and energy trying to control the actions of a chaos manufacturer or try to teach them a lesson.
Don't retaliate or resort to using bad behavior of your own.
Don't leave valuable objects in a vulnerable place.
Don't accept responsibility for fixing other people's messes.
Don't try to handle any crisis alone.
Don't force yourself to provide a logical explanation for the irrational acts of a personality disordered individual.
What TO Do:
Remove all items of value from the reach of the chaos manufacturer. This includes:
Access to bank accounts,
Important documents,
Sentimental objects such as photographs, gifts and souvenirs, and
Dangerous items, such as guns, drugs and knives,
Call for backup any time there is an incident or crisis.
Remove yourself from any situation where you may be hurt and wait for help.
Call the police and report any threats, acts of violence or thefts.
Get support from others who you can trust.
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