Targeted Humor, Mocking & Sarcasm - Targeted Humor is any sustained pattern of joking, sarcasm or mockery which is designed to reduce another individual's reputation in their own eyes or in the eyes of others.
Description:
Targeted Humor is a passive-aggressive approach to complaining about a person that is often practiced by people who suffer from personality disorders.
Examples:
Sarcasm - "My husband is a real genius"
Mocking “Ha - look at you - idiot!”
Put-Down Jokes "I was going to take the dog for a walk but she's still washing the dishes"
Ridicule or insult you then tell you that it was a joke, or that you have no sense of humor.
Put down your beliefs, religion, race, heritage - or that of your family / friends in the guise of a joke.
What it feels like:
Being on the receiving end of targeted humor is degrading, self-esteem destroying and ego-crushing. There is no good feeling that comes from it.
Learning to Cope:
The only successful approach to dealing with targeted humor is to have a clear boundary that you will not tolerate it.
What NOT to Do:
Don't laugh at the joke to keep up appearances.
Don't stay in the same room with a person who uses targeted humor.
Don't judge yourself or believe that you deserve any of it.
Don't take the bait and enter into an argument about what has been said.
What TO Do:
Exit the conversation.
Quickly, calmly and without drama, leave the room, the house, the company of anyone who subjects you to targeted humor as soon as it is safe to do so.
If appropriate, explain that you do not like being treated that way.
If appropriate, offer to take up the conversation again when the inappropriate humor is stopped.
Get support and discuss your concerns with someone who cares about you and who understands personality disorders
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