I'm a free woman!

Bunnyme1 · February 04, 2022, 06:34:07 PM

I know I'm probably "supposed" to feel sad, or at least post how bittersweet it is...but, I unapologetically feel great. Yes, my emotions may change. I feel like I grieved the marriage I thought I had and the idea of the kids having a two-parent home for the past two years (if not, longer), and I'm tired of his choices making me feel sad. Decree was signed today.
Such a weight has been lifted. I'm sure he will pull something else down the line, and I'm going to have to continue to deal with him for the kids, but for today...I'm so happy to drop the stb and just say BPDNex

Poison Ivy · February 04, 2022, 06:47:20 PM

Hurray!

PlantFlowersNotWeeds · February 04, 2022, 07:30:34 PM

hhaw · February 04, 2022, 09:30:38 PM

::doing the Snoopie dance!!!::..

I'm so happy for you, Bunny!

You did it!

notrightinthehead · February 05, 2022, 02:32:49 AM

enjoy this blissful moment!

Boat Babe · February 05, 2022, 03:08:23 AM

Good news. Nothing like freedom!

SonofThunder · February 05, 2022, 06:47:50 AM

A huge congrats on your new success and freedom, and a tip of my hat to your strength and perseverance!

SoT

GentleSoul · February 05, 2022, 07:02:29 AM

Warm congratulations.

Bunnyme1 · February 05, 2022, 01:00:13 PM

He already canceled his visit this weekend. Car trouble.

This makes 4 out of the last 5. And a FB post about how much he misses his kids...if only he were allowed to see them. Makes me mad, yes, but reinforces the joy I feel about no longer being married to him.

hhaw · February 05, 2022, 01:44:37 PM

Bunny:

How are your children dealing with their father cancelling visitation?

Stillirise · February 05, 2022, 04:55:45 PM

It's ok to feel however you feel. I also felt pretty happy, and relieved, when it was finally done. I'd done the grieving beforehand. Celebrate and appreciate the highs when they come, because as you already know first-hand, co-parenting with a PD will also bring the lows!

You're doing a great job standing in the gap for your children. As tough as it is for them, they will learn to accept the reality of what their F is capable of, and not. When they are older, they will be able to understand that it wasn't you preventing him from seeing them, even if that's what he says.

Bunnyme1 · February 05, 2022, 07:25:05 PM

Quote from: hhaw on February 05, 2022, 01:44:37 PM
Bunny:

How are your children dealing with their father cancelling visitation?

They are fine, which is why I let it go. Unfortunately, they have come to expect it. As my own therapist says, it is ok to be mad that they aren't getting what they deserve, but they are accustomed to what they are getting and may forever be fine having that sort of relationship with him. I can't will him into giving them what they need.

Lauren17 · February 06, 2022, 01:20:07 PM

Congratulations!
Enjoy this time of relief and freedom. You've worked hard for it.

Joga · February 07, 2022, 09:40:32 PM

Bunnyme, So pleased for you. Enjoy your peace! Enjoy your children! I'm glad they aren't taking it hard when he cancels.

JustKeepTrying · February 07, 2022, 11:15:42 PM

So happy for you! Sorry he is still being a jerk but so happy you will have some peace.

Happytobefree · February 10, 2022, 06:19:06 PM

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

escapingman · February 20, 2022, 04:50:01 AM

Amazing Bunny, congratulations!

I am a bit behind you but I can really relate to the part about grieving. I have been grieving and cried a lot the last year realising the future I thought I would have with my wife is just a fantasy. It's so wonderful to see people coming out on the other end, I can't wait to have all my sh*t behind and start living my life again.

Thanks for your inspiring post.