makes me sad

[NarcKiddo]

You made it through the funeral. Well done. I hope the lunch goes well.

As for the eulogy, I suggest you don't dwell on it. Chances are it contains mostly lies or embellishments of the truth. I've never heard of a funeral where anyone had the guts to stand up and say the deceased was an absolute so and so and they're very glad to see the back of them. I wouldn't be at all surprised if the one giving the eulogy had to clear it with the GC siblings. Even if they didn't,  maybe they were taking an opportunity to speak of experiences they wished for.

[moglow]

This probably sounds trite, and I'm sorry for that - but in every family, relationships between family members are different. One size doesn't fit all. Theirs with her may not have been all that great but they covered as best they could for the sake of appearances. Without her around, your relationships with them may change. There may have been some interference you knew nothing about - or you may choose to just let them go too. It's your choice.


I'll admit to a sick satisfaction when md has treated my brothers some of how she did me. Not that it affected them as it did me for so long, but underneath it all I realized it wasn't just me. That's helped a little.

For you - I wish you so much peace and joy ahead. Do whatever you need to lay her and the ugliness to rest, while you reach out to people who matter.