"Controlling People" by Patricia Evans

[wolfdreams]

If you had asked me to read a book about controlling people to learn why they do what they do.

I most probably would of told you where to shove the book! 

It's hard enough dealing with them, than reading about what makes them tick, what's happening in the head of the person.

I read Patricia's The Verbally Abusive Relationship first, that's why I read Controlling People, because Patricia is good at explaining stuff.

They try to control us because they need us to be their pretend version of us.
If we behave the way they want us to they are happy, we are in pain.
If we try to be authentic, to be real, they rage, ignore, define, tease, the authentic, real us because they need us to be their pretend version.

And when I try to explain it it looks like a mess, but patricia does it so good it makes sense.

I am reading it for 7th time and each time I read it I see and understand more about interactions.

And yes I will read it again and again, and please please do yourself a big big special thing get the book and read it you are worth it.