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"Understanding the Borderline Mother"

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AliceNWonderland

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Re: "Understanding the Borderline Mother"
« Reply #40 on: January 14, 2018, 08:01:15 PM »
I got an Amazon gift card from my uBPD mother for Xmas. I bought this book with it. That felt pretty great. Thanks for the book mom. 8-)
AWESOME :thumbup:

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Fightsong

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Re: "Understanding the Borderline Mother"
« Reply #41 on: January 15, 2018, 06:22:15 AM »
Oh God, hidden within the pages of this book are the truths of my life. It reminds me of the line ' strumming my pain with his fingers, telling my  life with his words'.  This book tells my life. it tells my goddam life.

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Re: "Understanding the Borderline Mother"
« Reply #42 on: January 30, 2018, 07:12:38 PM »
yeah I get that fightsong. When I read the hermit sections I was totally creeped out. It was like she had observed my childhood and then was writing about it in the third person. But I keep going back to it, it is gold in understanding how things operate with BPD mothers.

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carrots

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Re: "Understanding the Borderline Mother"
« Reply #43 on: April 27, 2018, 06:54:25 AM »
I had to buy a new copy too. Don't live in an English-speaking country so not available at library etc. I also used birthday money from FOO.  ;D

Just got it day before yesterday and couldn't put it down once started reading. Then got a bit triggered cuz as moglow (?) says upthread it's a hard read.

I knew from descriptions on here that M is a Witch, but the examples in the book also show Queen. What a combo! I think further reading and digesting is going to bring a few breakthroughs.

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louisebt

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Re: "Understanding the Borderline Mother"
« Reply #44 on: March 16, 2019, 05:21:50 PM »
Now my mother has passed, I would like to pass my copy of this book onto someone else whose need might be more urgent. It's a real gem. DM me. No charge except posting if international. Thanks

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Re: "Understanding the Borderline Mother"
« Reply #45 on: March 16, 2019, 05:26:07 PM »
💜 that you're offering this, Louise - thats a pricey book but we'll worth it. I did the same with mine. Mother's not gone, but my need for UTBM is.
“Nothing exposes our true self more than how we treat each other in the home.”  ~ Joseph B. Wirthlin

Stop Stinkin' Thinkin'!

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NotFooled

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Re: Understanding the Borderline Mother
« Reply #46 on: September 19, 2019, 02:56:35 PM »
It is an incredibly difficult read, DJ, particularly in early days of facing that you have a borderline mother and accepting that everything really isn't all your fault [as you've likely been told all your life]. There are so many questions and emotions flying all over the place while reading, everything is crazy and makes sense all at the same time.

It was painful read for me because of the emotionally abusive nature of my uBPD grandmother towards me as a child and how enmeshed my M was with her.  But it was one of the most eye opening books I've ever read.  The description of the "all good" and all bad child exactly described my M and her brother's issues as adults  to the point of being uncanny.  It helped with allot of questions I had all of my life.   

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pipchick

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Re: "Understanding the Borderline Mother"
« Reply #47 on: November 16, 2019, 05:39:50 PM »
I know this has been mentioned before on this thread, but this book is currently £36.05 on amazon.

That's for the kindle edition too, where you don't actually get a physical copy of the book.

I'm sorry but however good it is, that's a full week's wages for me, and I don't consider the pricing the behaviour of someone who wants to help others.

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Whitesheep45

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Re: "Understanding the Borderline Mother"
« Reply #48 on: December 01, 2019, 09:04:46 AM »
I've only just learnt about this book and am really interested to read it esp the 4 types of bpd mother...
My m may fit them all I feel! Bless her

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Whitesheep45

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Re: "Understanding the Borderline Mother"
« Reply #49 on: December 01, 2019, 09:38:56 AM »
It seems she is more witch /Queen
Interesting to read the section on the f types too..

I have a king huntsman f


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Re: "Understanding the Borderline Mother"
« Reply #50 on: December 04, 2019, 02:16:06 PM »
nice book