All aboard the crazy train

[thevoidglaredback]

So a month and a half ago my ex took off with our 3 month old in the middle of the night to a city 6 hours away. She gave some generic excuse of "the relationship isn't working" "I've wanted to leave for awhile" etc. She also claimed "This doesn't have to be permanent" and that "she isn't going so far I can't see my son".

Immediately I put a non removal order so my son can't be taken out of province (her family lives on the other side of the country). All communication then stops. I serve her with family court paperwork later that week and the reply I get is insane - she wants the court to force me to give her all my sons documents, and that she gets full custody without me getting any visitation. Also she wants to be able to remove him from the country without my notice or permission.

I do some digging with her family in the States (she was abducted by her mother right after she was born) and it turns out she is planning to go live with her father...whom she has never met. She hasn't ever met ANY of her fathers side of the family, and from what her sister told me they are just as dysfunctional as her nutjob mother.

Also during all of this, I find out she has been talking and working with my OTHER bpd ex trying to get me arrested so she could take off with my kid without me knowing. I got bail from these false allegations and she must have panicked and took off before I got home. Childrens Services stopped by the next day to talk to me, and our mutual family Dr was acting very odd when I went in for my appointment. It makes me think she had been setting this up for awhile and had woven a story to everyone except my family. Meanwhile she was asking me to get baby clothes before I was arrested and begging me for a $100 pre release video game as a birthday AND Christmas present in one - guess she wanted to milk me for as much as she could before she thought I was "going away". I figure she doesn't know how charges work and thought I would be in until trial because winter clothes for her and baby were POURING in from the mail for 2 weeks after she left.

What an absolute shitshow. Her and my other ex are sharing "empowered single mommy" pictures every day, they even shaved their heads together and messed up my daughters hair in their manic insanity! How can 2 BPDs even be that close and LIVE together? Have they suddenly become lesbians, or is hating "mean daddy" enough to get them to bond?

[1footouttadefog]

Wow , this is an intense story.  I hope things de-escalate. 

It is possible that these women are in a relationship, that could mean things will settle down once they feel secire in theor new venture. 

Having someone willing to take off woth yiur kid ajd live with strangers across the countey is oretty volatile, bit having you arrested first even more so.

I am not sure where I wiuld even start with sorting this.  You have alot of work ahead of you.  I hope you can practice self care and stay healthy and strong for this challenge.