Stealing

[Hepatica]

I have been thinking about the FOO on my father's side and this AM was specifically thinking about these three different cousins of mine on that side, all of who have reputations for stealing. One of them came to stay with me years ago and stole two dresses that I found in the trunk of her car tied in a plastic bag after I had asked her again and again if she had taken them. I didn't believe her so I went to look in her trunk and found them. She also stole nearly $300 of coins I had been storing in my closet. I had been so proud of that money, spending a year saving it hoping to put in the bank. My mother had always taught me to do this. (This was years ago when we had loose change.) It could only have been her, because she came to stay with me and my boyfriend at the time and he hadn't touched it in over a year, but it mysteriously disappears three days after she comes to stay with us. Another cousin also has a rep for stealing $$, yet he is well known in the community and does all sorts of fundraising events, and most recently a third cousin (all on my father's side.) I went to a movie with her and we stopped at convenience store to buy some chocolate bars and the clerk yelled out at my cousin "I just saw you put that can of Coke in your purse!" She pulled it out of her purse and said, in this very coy voice, "OH! I didn't even realize I did that... " I was horrified. 

So three cousins. And all of them are the MOST charming people ever. Meeting them, anybody would be absolutely fooled they are the nicest people on the planet.

Is this a characteristic of NPD or something else? What is this?

I find stealing so repugnant. I have no contact now with any of these cousins - or any of my FOO now.

Have any of you experienced this? It seems rampant on the one side of my family and it gives me the creeps.

[Deb2]

My dBPDsister stole from me while I was growing up and into my adult life. She stole from our mother and her children. I came to see this as my sister's sense of entitlement.  She believes she is entitled to whatever she wants. It was frustrating. We are NC with her, except for our mom who passed away, and her youngest daughter.

My probable NPD brother-in-law also was a thief. He now is disabled and has dementia so that has slowed him down. But BIL's thievery also stems from his sense of entitlement.

[Hepatica]

That makes sense. They all behave as if they are entitled to what ever they want.

[debamg1]

My nsis is a thief. As a child I had to hid anything that I did not want stolen. She would steal birthday presents, Christmas presents and really anything that she wanted. My enabling mother would then start with the tears whenever we went to her she would say things like " I can't stand this drama, I am going to kill myself" which as a child makes you stop telling on your sister pretty quickly. As adults my sister has not gotten any better. My son was stillborn and she stole the money for his funeral out of my husbands wallet the day before the service.