Extreme gaslighting

[Bunnyme]

Since the stbx got out of rehab this last time, he has been lying his butt off.  I suspected he was using again, but didnt have proof.  With our hearing coming up, he went to live in a halfway house and I know he has been staying there.  I finally got my stuff out of our old house together last week and hired someone to come by this afternoon and clean.  I unlocked the door, and lo and behold, my stbx was there. I found drug paraphernalia sitting out in the open and he was high as a kite.  I did say something about the pipe he had fashioned out of a pen.  He actually started in on me!  (Not surprised, but it still sucks)

What?  It's a pen.  Is he not allowed to use a pen now?  He has to write things, you know.

  Like, seriously, it is all burned up.  I've been doing so well with having as little contact as possible to avoid his gaslighting and it all smacked me in the face again.  I hurried up and got out of there, but not before he told more lies that contradicted themselves.  It wasnt worth the breath to say anything, especially as high as he was. 

I left my key so I never have to go back and called his family.  One of them went over.

As I was typing this, he texted me that he is being admitted to the hospital "if you even care to know."  It feels so wrong to not respond to that, but I know it is manipulation after being on here for so long. 

I just had to vent to people who will understand. 

[Boat Babe]

Hey Bunnyme. Remember this incident. Should your resolve ever waiver, should you get hoovered, should you have doubts etc. then remember this sad and sordid scenario. You'll immediately feel better!

Be good to yourself and have a nice bath and put clean sheets on the bed. Savour your freedom.

[GettingOOTF]

I am so sorry. It rarely gets better with addicts. You are making all the right moves and soon will be out of this. Hang in there.

[notrightinthehead]

Did you take pictures? Do you have a witness? Document it. This will help you remember and might help later.

[Bunnyme]

I managed one pic before he walked in.  Already sent it to my attorney

[Bunnyme]

He was at a regular hospital psych ward, but has been moved to an inpatient psychiatric hospital.  I don't know what is going on.  He called earlier to tell me and ask for a phone number he needed.  I just said thanks for letting me know.  Here is the number.  He was sad and sheepishly said, "I'll let you go then."  Ok.  Bye.  That is it.  I'm proud of myself for not asking him questions, as hard as that is.  He is in a good place.  It is out of my hands. 

[GettingOOTF]

My ex was in an inpatient psychiatric hospital multiple times. The last time I used it to get all my ducks in row and leave finally.

His last trip to the hospital finally allowed me to see the situation clearly. I saw that he was deeply troubled, beyond what I or anyone really could help. He had to help himself, and I had to help myself.

I’m sorry for what you are going through. It really seems like we have very similar stories.