Just deflected a hoovering attempt..

[Shakenbutnotstirred]

 
Just had a tearful ex on the phone, started out all 'i miss you' but quickly turned into blaming me and he still wants to 'fight' for our relationship
I managed to stand my ground tho, which is a new thing for me

[escapingman]

Well done! I have unfortunately fallen for rhe hoovers even though I know what they are. Stay strong!

[1footouttadefog]

He misses you.

That is a feeling and you are not responsible for his feelings.

You have the right to choose regardless of another person's feelings.

You being blamed means that him "fighting" for the relationship means you changing to what he wants.

This all equates to he wants something, it's your fault he does not ha e it and you need to work to make chances so he can get what he wants.

Sometimes the pds really tell us who they are.

[ddk]

He misses you.

That is a feeling and you are not responsible for his feelings.

You have the right to choose regardless of another person's feelings.

You being blamed means that him "fighting" for the relationship means you changing to what he wants.

This all equates to he wants something, it's your fault he does not ha e it and you need to work to make chances so he can get what he wants.

Sometimes the pds really tell us who they are.

This.  ALL of this.