Ugh, just had a yucky conversation with my mother

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Re: Ugh, just had a yucky conversation with my mother
« Reply #20 on: August 05, 2021, 11:54:33 AM »

Have you watched Narcissism Survivor on YouTube?
His videos have the effect of sobering me up whenever I slip into the caretaking role like I want to help mother because she's so vulnerable, poor her.
They/re not really a victim. They PLAY the victim to keep up the facade. That's a totally different story. Someone who's a victim seeks helps because they're in pain. Someone who plays the victim does not want help because they know deep down that they're faking it.

This is what I've learned from my mother's fake cries and fake 'poor me' statements. It's all a theatre play, and she enjoys acting.

I haven't yet, but I will!  Thank you!  Yes, it is so hard to accept that they are acting and not really helpless/pitiful, etc.  I guess we just can't relate to that at all.  Like, why would someone pretend to cry and be in distress just to get attention?  I hate it when I cry in front of others and try to avoid it.  I'm not sure if that's healthy either, but I just can't relate to "putting on a show", especially if it's not real.   :sadno:

I will check out those YouTube videos for sure!