More lies, and talking to the kids

[Bunnyme1]

I have trouble answering the kids when they ask why they don't see their dad more.  I don't want to say that he totally could, but chooses not to.  They don't really ask that often, but one can only deflect for so long.

Also a vent.  He lied, as usual.  This time about giving our child medicine.  I got 3 different stories.  I needed to know what time she got it so I could give it at the next correct interval.  He took it as me trying to question his parenting and got angry with me.  Then told me yet a different time.  I question if she got it at all.  Also, didn't have the back support check he promised he would have.  I don't let these things throw me off as much as they used to, but they are still frustrating. 

I keep documenting, but it these issues are so dumb that I feel petty even writing them.  Like, why would you lie about her medication? 

[Poison Ivy]

Petty on his end; very important that you're documenting this behavior. Lying about or forgetting when medication was given suggests your children's father isn't competent to take care of them.

[Penny Lane]

Some scripts for when the kids ask why dad does something or doesn't do something:
"I don't know"
"Are you feeling like you miss your dad?" or a more open ended "how are you feeling about this?"
"Dad is sick and should be trying to get better. I don't know when he'll be able to see you, but I hope he gets better." (age appropriate explanation and don't commit to anything on his behalf)

None of these make up for the fact that they don't see their dad more, but you can't make up for that. All you can do is be a comforting landing spot for them to have big feelings about it.