New here and beginning to speak out again

[Smalls126]

Hey everyone.
I haven't reached out or spoken of my own disease in a long time and I have never reached out regarding my current situation. I am a diagnosed BPD in love with a narcissist. The things I have gone through for the past ten years, I blame myself for primarily. I just don't know where to begin to try to sort it all out. Thanks for listening

[xredshoesx]

Hi  Smalls126 and welcome to Out of the FOG -


Because you have identified yourself as someone who was diagnosed with BPD  we want to make sure you're aware of a couple of things as you settle in.

Out of the FOG is a community dedicated to offering support and information to people who have a loved one or family member who suffers from a personality disorder. That doesn't necessarily exclude those who also have a PD from participating but the rule is we come here to discuss our relationship issues as they pertain to the other people in our lives with a PD, and not PD recovery issues as they pertain to the self. If you suffer from, or suspect you suffer from a personality disorder, we welcome your participation as long as the discussion still revolves around dealing with the loved ones in your life with a PD and not on your own recovery from a PD.   

Also, we'd like you to be aware that people at a site like this are often hurting a great deal.  They come here needing a safe place to vent about how they may have been hurt by the person in their life with a PD.  At times, these comments can be harsh. Reading them may trigger you, if you are not far enough along in your own recovery to let these comments pass without becoming upset or attempting to speak on behalf of others with personality disorders.

It takes a lot of courage to be so forthright on your first post and we appreciate the transparency.  We have had PD and uPD members in the past working on other relationships - the best practice is to post from the perspective of your relationship and not your own recovery.


Thanks for your understanding, and again Welcome to Out of the FOG

[Worthy of Care]

Welcome, Smalls.