The Golden Child

[sunshine702]

I really like this guys videos.

https://youtu.be/6XrbdTflGWU?list=PLkFlJ2-NgyQ9IbP4ad-sWI07MtXhysHTg

The Golden Child.
In my NPD triangulated family my youngest brother J was the Golfen Child and his child Hadley next becase my narc moms source. Still is.
You know we were close for one summer and then never again.  One of my first memories something was wrong was we both broke a lamp shade - buf I got punished.  He did not.  I knew that was unfair at 8 yrs old.  J haven't had his number in 20 years.  We are NC because of my N mom. I tried once at Christmas and got negativity from him and my mom so  I never again. I remeber my father gettkng a loan on  a Range Rover for him at one point - all the beat goodies always.  He was also close with scapegoat for a lot longer but they also now don't speak over a bad business deal. 

[blacksheep7]

Hi sunshine702,

I will check it out soon.
About the Golden Child, I can relate!  The eldest of four is the gc, my bro and me the second child, only 15 months difference in age.  I thought he was my bff. When he married my bff (not at all his type, hardly any similarities), he left across the country for his job.  He would come to town with his wife and visit only her side.  She had a grudge with me and foo, so we didn't see him for 35 years. A yes man.  Only came back when his wife died of cancer. I forgave him xxx times, got back to having fun like we did, before he left.  The honeymoon was over. I went nc for his alcoholic behavior.

I also got punished by covert narc m for gc's dilinquency after police brought him home.  I was babysitting and never said a word to protect him but police called M and I got ?&&*(&!! for not telling her.

Today M is a widow and gc/surrogate dh comes and visits every month for a couple of days, does groceries and M is overjoyed.  She was mad that he wasn't present in all those years, that didn't last long.  Doesn't like that he drinks but accepts it cause she's lonely and anything will do.  I wouldn't get away acting  like that.

My younger brother also gets special treatment.  Although they all get criticized at one point or another to us, the other sibs.

[Hazy111]

Sunshine702,

The definitive on this is "Understanding the Borderline Mother" by Christine Lawson . I think the guy in the video  may have read it. Its reviewed in Books in Resources. A MUST!