Triangulation

[sunshine702]

Triangulation.  Golden Child. Scapegoat. Sounding Board. I have dealt with this my whole life with Narc mom and now that I see her doing it with the new generation grandkids it make me mad. Probably the most mad of everything I have dealt with.

Her judgments - picks one to favor and one to bag on.  Before it was Hadley then Haden. Never Nora and Lucas she keeps talking about awfully (words like challenged challenged  and demon child). Every time that happens try to counter it.   Mom kids develop in leaps and bounds I am sure over time he will catch up. Or I pretty sure he was looking at all the new. He's a toddler

Does not matter
Judgment set

These are GC new kids. And luckily mom sees right through it and will not accept it.

I was looking at Facebook yesterday Haden won a wresting competition!  Crickets.

I am bucking the family system now as I don't want or need this toxic
So now I am Scapegoat

We dealt with if- And it is what it is for us. But seeing it put on a 5 year old boy makes me angry

[Cat of the Canals]

I get it. I've seen my PDmom reenact certain behaviors with my nephews, and it makes me furious. Throwing a tantrum when nephew1 wanted my dad to read him a book instead of her. Demanding that a baby "perform" for an audience. "Do this! Show them that!" Prove to everyone how special you are so that grandma can feel good. I hate it.

[SeaBreeze]

My late uNPDm tried to play her usual PD games with my children. She was always surprised when I intervened with very firm boundaries and put a stop to it. I advocated for my kids better than I did for myself with my mother, and that's partly what helped bring me Out of the FOG!