Feeling overwhelmed

Started by 11JB68, June 17, 2022, 12:09:33 PM

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11JB68

This may just be a vent, sorry
I am just feeling so overwhelmed lately
I know that I am so stuck in what are probably 'codependent' type mechanisms
At home, at work
I feel like I run myself ragged trying to just take care of everyone/everything etc.
SO Busy at work....
I literally just started crying in the ladies room at work
I'm exhausted
I know from experience I cannot go home and 'vent' to my uOCPDh. I HAVE to just MC with him. So I really feel like I have no one to go to for support.
What do you all do when you are feeling overhelmed?

square

Sometimes we need to share with other people. Sometimes I share here.

I know how it feels to have to just take the load alone. It seems not too much to ask to be able to just share our worries with our SOs, but they will only add to our burdens.

pianissimo

I cried yesterday night. I was upset about work, but there were other things too. I felt similarly, I had nobody to share how I felt. Most of the time, it feels like there is no safe space, or there is no break. In my case, I live alone, and, having the apartment to myself helps me feel better. I guess, if I didn't have this option, I might have gone to a coffee shop to chill. For example, today, I was still feeling bad, I needed to go to work, but I decided to sit on a bench in the garden and spend a little bit of time there. This felt like I claimed space there, and helped me feel better about work. The weather was good too.

notrightinthehead

Happened to me too. Every time I was alone in the car tears just burst out. I made an appointment with the therapist and he told me I suffered with depression. I was astonished because I kept functioning.
I am so sorry you feel so low. You need someone, somewhere to get validation. Is there a CoDA group in your area? Please, you have been trying so hard for so long, please get a little support for yourself.
I can't hate my way into loving myself.

11JB68

Thanks everyone... got tearful again reading your words of support.
I need to work on this some more...
Thanks

11JB68

Not right.... yes...I feel that sometimes... like it's depression.... but yet... high functioning at the same time... so no one notices... and it's exhausting...