showed up on my TV!

[losingmyself]

Hi all.
I had a panic moment the other day when a person who I listen to on You Tube at work, on the incognito setting, showed up when my H was scrolling through You Tube at my home the other day!
I try to be so careful. I only listen while I'm at work, only look at this site at work. I don't understand how it could have gotten there. I played it cool. He didn't ask about it, either. But now I'm worried more will show up. Anyone have any advice? I can't imagine it's something he looked at.

[square]

1) You need a seperate YouTube account to watch anything you don't want him to see. All you need to do is get a gmail account and make sure you're logged in as that on your phone or whatever device when you watch abd never ever log into that account on the TV.

2) On your phine/device (but not the TV) you can log into the YouTube account that the TV is connected to and look at the watch history. You can delete anything hairy you see in the watch history. Then the algorithm won't suggest similar videos.

3) Practice how you'd react if this ever comes up again and he says something. I  think just shrugging and saying you don't know anything about it, or saying it might be because you were looking at some videos that could be related (such as the Amber Heard case, or you've been interested in true crime, or something like that).

[guitarman]

I can relate to what you posted about.

I used to be so worried when my uBPD/NPD sister would visit me as she would want to use my laptop. I found it difficult to refuse her demands. I had to be so careful with all the settings in case she saw my posts here or other sites I had visited researching about mental illness such as YouTube and Amazon.

I only use private groups in Facebook. Her face came up as a possible friend. It often happens on Facebook where abusers can be recommended as possible friends. Also I don't trust Facebook not to recommend anything I post there to her. I get suggestions from other people that I may like to look at their posts. I never "like" any posts on Facebook as my sister may see them. I don't feel that it's safe to use as I can't be anonymous there. It's a constant fear for me.

I am anonymous on Instagram but they are owned by Meta who also own Facebook. They have a policy of cross posting between the platforms.

We have to be so careful about what we do online. Protecting our confidentiality is SO important.

I'm glad that you've been given information about how to protect your browsing history on YouTube. There should be a way of you using the internet wherever you like, without fear of anyone else seeing what you've done on it.

[losingmyself]

Thanks, square and guitarman. I will take your advice. I'm a little apprehensive about logging in to our youtube account to check the history. I would be concerned that he'd see it. I think that playing innocent is the way to go. I never look up anything at home, that's all him, unless it's music, which I do occasionally.  So it's believable that I don't know anything about it, but I do listen to a lot of true crime, so they could be connected. I just hope it is gone!

[square]

Ok, so yeah, views on true crime do legitimately get connected to content describing NPD, ASPD, and BPD quite frequently. So pick a true crime story and have it ready to go - "hmm, I dunno... oh, maybe because I was watching some stuff about Ted Bundy/Amanda Knox/whatever."