Narcissists 3 depressions - Extract from Sam Vaknins twitter account

[Hazy111]

Thought some might be helped by this

I. Loss Induced Dysphoria

This is the narcissist's depressive reaction to the loss of one or more Sources of Narcissistic Supply – or to the disintegration of a Pathological Narcissistic Space (PN Space, his stalking or hunting grounds, the social unit whose members lavish him with attention).

II. Deficiency Induced Dysphoria

Deep and acute depression which follows the aforementioned losses of Supply Sources or a PN Space. Having mourned these losses, the narcissist now grieves their inevitable outcome – the absence or deficiency of Narcissistic Supply. Paradoxically, this dysphoria energises the narcissist and moves him to find new Sources of Supply to replenish his dilapidated stock (thus initiating a Narcissistic Cycle).

III. Self-Worth Dysregulation Dysphoria

The narcissist reacts with depression to criticism or disagreement, especially from a trusted and long-term Source of Narcissistic Supply. He fears the imminent loss of the source and the damage to his own, fragile, mental balance. The narcissist also resents his vulnerability and his extreme dependence on feedback from others. This type of depressive reaction is, therefore, a mutation of self-directed aggression.

Many scholars consider pathological narcissism to be a form of depressive illness. This is the position of the authoritative magazine "Psychology Today".

The life of the typical narcissist is, indeed, punctuated with recurrent bouts of dysphoria (ubiquitous sadness and hopelessness), anhedonia (loss of the ability to feel pleasure), and clinical forms of depression (cyclothymic, dysthymic, or other).

This picture is further obfuscated by the frequent presence of mood disorders, such as Bipolar I (co-morbidity).

While the distinction between reactive (exogenous) and endogenous depression is obsolete, it is still useful in the context of narcissism.
Narcissists react with depression not only to life crises but to fluctuations in Narcissistic Supply and to a circumstantial inability to express their dominant psychosexual type (cerebral or somatic).

The narcissist's personality is disorganised and precariously balanced. He regulates his sense of self-worth by consuming Narcissistic Supply from others. Any threat to the uninterrupted flow of said supply compromises his psychological integrity and his ability to function. It is perceived by the narcissist as life threatening.

Indeed, depression can be conceptualized as a reaction to the systemic failure of hitherto trustworthy and efficacious coping strategies, either owing to a seismic change in circumstances and the environment, or because of overwhelming new information.

[Cat of the Canals]

The narcissist's personality is disorganised and precariously balanced. He regulates his sense of self-worth by consuming Narcissistic Supply from others. Any threat to the uninterrupted flow of said supply compromises his psychological integrity and his ability to function. It is perceived by the narcissist as life threatening.

Wow, this right here. That's my mom 100%. I've always said she can be pleasant, but ONLY when things are going her way. Because her perception that she is important and in control is where she gets all of her supply.

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Very interesting.

I recognize the third one. I was my boss's "GC". He had a moment of vulnerability and unfortunately (and I do mean that, I do regret it) I thought he could handle feedback. I didn't understand it at the time but he closed down, changed, and not just to me. I was maybe the third time something like that had happened to him and I suspect the last. He even moved away (a pattern now that I think about it), and became distant from the company. He was more calculating and used clients more, became a real shark. He finally found a new industry where he could pal around with people he felt were more on his level. But I personally never saw him happy again, and yeah, I do think he was not so far gone before, and he could be partly real though he was also playing a role.

I'm totally not attributing all that to dorky old me but I saw a big change and felt I was part of it. It wasn't good.