Trip then Another Trip

[sunshine702]

I figured this out about 10 year back.  My Narc mom does double trips.  You just get done with one and then within a month she comes again. This happens all the time!!

I remember it when I lived in New York City mid Giuliani reign for a hot minute.

She came out for a work trip.  I got through it it was a nightmare because she did not want to walk and in NYC that is not happening. 

Then she came out again for the Thanksgiving Parade.  It was exhausting.  I remember being upset that I handled them and then it happens again!!  She still has a picture of Golden Child Brother with the World Trade Center behind him.  Wow . None of me.  I just realized that. But of course.  I am not source.  And from time to time I am Scapegoat too.

But that gives you an idea of the timeframe and how far this goes backs

I used to just think it was her work conventions were scheduled back to back.  The baby show then the women's wear show.

But those are more the excuse
And she just did it again.  She came out to my town then again to a show in Denver to visit source H. She did not need to go to Denver the show is an excuse .  It's H.  Fuel. Source.  Comparison with my trip.  It's having H show her a better time.   Such triangulation there.

Is the double trips triangulation?  Source fuel?  Trying to exhaust me and snap? It really is odd now that I have noticed it.  Source fuel of how fabulous she is and competing hosts? 

This is definitely  a thing I will not miss when we move to in-laws city.

Curious you guy's thoughts.   I feel it's done to have us all compete and then compete again.

[notrightinthehead]

Drop the rope.   Don't compete. Accept and admit inadequacy. Total failure. You can't, you won't, you mustn't. Experience how light you will feel if you drop the burden. This was placed onto you the day you were born. You carried it long enough. You can put it down now.

[Cat of the Canals]

My PDmil used to show up at our house unannounced, expect us to entertain her the entire day, and then she'd either pressure us to come to her house the next day OR she'd tell us she was planning to come back for another visit in a few days. Always with some absurd excuse like, "Well, I have to come back to bring the XYZ to [brother-in-law."

One time she purposely "forgot" something at our house just to have an excuse to come back for it the following week. We dropped it in the mail instead. 

In her case, I think she likes having a whole bunch of "narc supply activities" lined up. Otherwise she feels anxious. I sense this from my own PDmom, too. They need to know where they are getting their next fix from.