Any sugguestions for vacations when I really destress?

[peace]

Hi, everyone,
In our previous vacations, I planned everything and then during the trip BPW would complain, so it's usually very depressing and stressful. Now I have some vacation days from work I need to use, I'm just wondering how I should use it?  Just wondering what you all have tried to have a vacation without influenced by the PD?

[SonofThunder]

Hi peace,

How about a staycation for you, yet encourage your bpw to plan a ladies 3 day outing with friends with some of the money you would spend normally to travel with her. Then you can spend three glorious days at home with only yourself (peace).

SoT

[Rebel13]

I love SonofThunder's suggestion! I was going to say something similar, just, what would YOU like to do? Not, what would you like to do WITH HER, but what would YOU like, whether she accompanied you or not? Maybe do some of that, if you can.

[notrightinthehead]

My neighbor, also married to a difficult person, went on a three day meditation/silence retreat in a monastery. She returned much strengthened.

Whatever you decide to do, try to find something that gives you joy.

[PlantFlowersNotWeeds]

Vacationing with someone with a PD can be very stressful - I avoided them.

I agree with the suggestions - try and figure out what you would like and how to re-energize yourself.

I wish I did that