Divorce final!

[SeaBreeze]

Divorce is officially final! 

We reached settlement without going to trial, and more easily than expected. I suspect ex has new supply, which is fine by me. Whatever ex's reason for wanting to settle quickly, I used that momentum while it was working in my favor. While I settled for less than what I'm legally entitled to, I'm still receiving more than I originally planned to offer. Thankfully my attorney set me straight by explaining that negotiation starts at 50/50!

I want to thank everyone here for your support and guidance, from the first time I lurked on the "Committed" and "Common Behaviors" forums, eventually posting then transitioning back and forth to "Working on Ourselves" and here in "Separated/Divorcing". This was the first PD forum that truly resonated with me with practical real-life advice to guide me at each stage as I was ready for it. While it's sad to know others are going through, or have gone through, the same CRAP, it's also been encouraging and sooo helpful to see none of us are alone in this experience.

I want to thank fellow member hhaw if she happens to see this for her advice on mediation. Specifically, to have all parties sign off on any agreement reached *before* disbanding the mediation session. As awesome as my attorney was, they were the one who suggested we could all go ahead and leave while the paperwork was drafted and then sent to ex and me later to sign. I politely but firmly stated nope, I can wait, let's all sign BEFORE we go! And so we did, and that was that!

And so after 25 years of PD/co-dependant craziness, stbx-uNPDh is now officially ex-uNPDh #2. I will continue working on myself so that I'm not back on here in a few years discussing any potential uNPD #3's !!!  I'll continue dropping by to see how everyone is doing and offer support when and where able. But I truly am ready to move on now that navigating PD is no longer my full-time job! Much love and best wishes to each of you in your journey forward.

[Rebel13]

Congratulations and all the best as you make your life your own!!

[notrightinthehead]

I will continue working on myself so that I'm not back on here in a few years discussing any potential uNPD #3's !!!

 

Congratulations! I am happy for you.

[SonofThunder]

Congratulations SeaBreeze!  Well done and best wishes on moving forward in your life! 

I just love these types of reports from my Out of the FOG comrades! 

SoT

[escapingman]

Fantastic news, congratulations and well doner!

 

[xredshoesx]

congrats!!!   happy independence day @SeaBreeze !!!!

[PlantFlowersNotWeeds]

Congratulation 

[blunk]

Congratulations, Seabreeze! Enjoy your freedom!

[newlyawakened]

Congratulations Seabreeze! Well played. Wish you the best for your new life as a free person!

I hope to see a similar day sometime soon.

[StartingHealing]

Congrats!!!!     SOOOOO please that it all went smoothly! 

Wishing you all the best on this new adventure your on!

[losingmyself]

I'm so happy that I checked in here!!
Congratulations to you! And enjoy your new freedom!!
As a 'rebounder' myself, I understand the wish to not find ex #3!
Find joy in those you love, and love yourself above all others. It sounds selfish,  but you can't share from an empty cup!!
God bless you and may you find the happiness you deserve!!
WOOOOO!!!

[clarityneeded]

Congratulations. Your new chapter is going to be amazing!

[hhaw]

I'm happy you finalized your divorce, SeaBreeze! Amazing you guided attorneys and shortened your suffering. Well done! That makes all the hours posting here worthwhile. 

 I wish you peace and happiness in your newfound freedom.

Divorce is officially final! 

We reached settlement without going to trial, and more easily than expected. I suspect ex has new supply, which is fine by me. Whatever ex's reason for wanting to settle quickly, I used that momentum while it was working in my favor. While I settled for less than what I'm legally entitled to, I'm still receiving more than I originally planned to offer. Thankfully my attorney set me straight by explaining that negotiation starts at 50/50!

I want to thank everyone here for your support and guidance, from the first time I lurked on the "Committed" and "Common Behaviors" forums, eventually posting then transitioning back and forth to "Working on Ourselves" and here in "Separated/Divorcing". This was the first PD forum that truly resonated with me with practical real-life advice to guide me at each stage as I was ready for it. While it's sad to know others are going through, or have gone through, the same CRAP, it's also been encouraging and sooo helpful to see none of us are alone in this experience.

I want to thank fellow member hhaw if she happens to see this for her advice on mediation. Specifically, to have all parties sign off on any agreement reached *before* disbanding the mediation session. As awesome as my attorney was, they were the one who suggested we could all go ahead and leave while the paperwork was drafted and then sent to ex and me later to sign. I politely but firmly stated nope, I can wait, let's all sign BEFORE we go! And so we did, and that was that!

And so after 25 years of PD/co-dependant craziness, stbx-uNPDh is now officially ex-uNPDh #2. I will continue working on myself so that I'm not back on here in a few years discussing any potential uNPD #3's !!!  I'll continue dropping by to see how everyone is doing and offer support when and where able. But I truly am ready to move on now that navigating PD is no longer my full-time job! Much love and best wishes to each of you in your journey forward.

[Beachstone]

Congratulations! Wishing you peace, healing and happiness.