Hello

[Jenal1167]

I just recently found this website and am hoping to gain some insight into npd and get some reassurance that what I'm dealing with is not normal. My husband lies about everything, he creates chaos everywhere he goes. He has ruined my relationship with my grown children (from a previous marriage). My son won't talk to me and my daughter won't visit me anymore because my husband starts drama and they don't want to deal with it. Now I'm isolated and alone with my husband all the time because he's retired. This is making me second guess myself if he's npd or not. My husband has no empathy towards me, like I'm down with the flu right now and I'm taking care of him. He won't even feed the dog, I have to get up and do it. Every day if my life is miserable with this man. He suffocates me and sneaks up behind me watching my every move to the point I feel like I'm being watched even when he isn't here. He's very sarcastic with jokes that are supposed to be funny at my expense and he spends hours on Facebook, tiktok, you name it. It's like he has to know what I'm doing every second but still won't give me the time of day.

[bloomie]

Hi and welcome! I am thankful you found us, yet so sorry for the isolation and emotional neglect you describe experiencing in your marriage. 

We have so many resources and helpful articles all over the forum boards. We have a carefully crafted toolbox at the drop down menu above that was put together by fellow travelers like you and me - people who get what it is like to live in close relationship with a loved one who is hurting us.

Make good use of the resources, read through the insights and experiences of others, and when you are ready join the conversations on the forum boards.

You are not alone and taking the step to begin to build a support system for yourself is brave and will help to lighten a heavy load! I look forward to supporting you and hope you find the community as empowering as I have!

[Deby64]

Jenal1167,
I am so grateful that you found FOG, it will be so uplifting to share with and obtain insight from the experience, strength and hope of others that understand exactly where we are. Feel better soon and know that you are resilient.. Be of good courage