Abusive narcissistic ex

[Alice146]

I have gotten out of a relationship with an abusive narcissist over a year ago. And im still suffering. It took over my life. I feel like i am over him but my life is on pause ever since the break up. I feel numb i barely go out i am not motivated and i am not able to open up emotionally.

[notrightinthehead]

Welcome! yes, that's exactly how it feels like after narcissistic abuse. Do you have a support system in real life? I found CoDA groups helpful for continued support after therapy.
Let us know what you attempt to re-gain some normality. Take some slow little steps - begin with what gave you joy before.

[Alice146]

I've talked to a therapist and ny close friends. I've been putting in the hard work ever since the breakup. But i still tend to get very anxious or stimulated from time to time. I still get angry. Thank you so much for the advice i will definitely check it out. I feel like it would help to talk to people who relate to what i've been through.

[notrightinthehead]

It definitely does. I have been NC for almost 7 years. When I get a letter from his lawyer I still have a trauma response and am pretty useless for the better part of 3 days. The good news is, I am fine otherwise.