Is he a narc?

[Marissa]

I had an email exchange with a brother about a practical matter. I suspect my mom was a covert narcissist. Now, I suspect this brother may have some NPD traits as well. Here are some sentences that he wrote:

I am shocked by how you twist the facts ...
These are the facts....
I'm a better judge of how our other brother treats you than you are. This it is based on my frequent contact with him. You haven't seen him in a decade... 

I have experienced the other brother as being hostile towards me as recent as 2 weeks ago when he sent me an email out of the blue. The last time I saw him in person, my friend was there as well. She remarked later that this brother showed hostility towards me.

I know where the hostility comes from. It comes from my mom with whom the hostile brother was very close. My mom lied by omission of crucial facts because these facts made her not look like a good mom. The facts were duly noted by third parties but she omitted the parties involved, and instead blamed me.

[bloomie]

Marissa - this sounds like a disconcerting communication from your one brother about the other. I have found it is so important to stay with your own perceptions about someone's treatment of you until you can have the time and space to come to your own beliefs and conclusions. It seems like you are doing that! Bravo!

It might be of good help to you to look through the traits information at the Personality Disorders menu above. We cannot diagnose another person, but we can identify behaviors that are a problem and find tools and strategies for dealing with them. And that is what we come here to do.