Editing old posts - safety related

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SunnyMeadow

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Editing old posts - safety related
« on: March 14, 2020, 12:16:15 PM »
Ok, so lavandar posted a topic in Dealing with PD Parents that was closed for moderator review. The last post mentioned a PD parent posting here. This kind of set off my anxiety. I have this feeling from time to time and wonder if my PD person could find me here.

Is there a way for us to modify/edit old posts or once that short time frame closes...that's it?? I know I can edit within 30 minutes or maybe an hour, but that's it? I would hate to lose the record of all I've written but kind of feel I'd be safer if I could change some things to be less identifiable.

What do y'all think?  :unsure:

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Re: Editing old posts - safety related
« Reply #1 on: March 14, 2020, 12:22:47 PM »
The policy baffles me. I felt very unsafe for a while, but now I see my H is so out of it he won't find this. (He used to snoop).

Most forums you can edit anytime. But this very sensitive topic you can't, it's bizarre. There could easily be literal safety issues, but no.

You're allowed to request up to three posts to be removed. Beyond that, you are offered "hopes and prayers" that your abuser won't mind your other posts.
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Re: Editing old posts - safety related
« Reply #2 on: March 14, 2020, 12:35:16 PM »
Agree Lotus, very bizarre. I've even thought of completely deleting my account and asking for the mods to wipe out all posts. Is that an option?

But I just reached Senior Member status at 500 posts and well, I'm feeling part of the club  :bigwink: But seriously, mods please help with this!

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Re: Editing old posts - safety related
« Reply #3 on: March 14, 2020, 12:43:54 PM »
The removing only 3 posts thing, how is this done? Do I send links to a mod? I have a feeling I might need to do more than 3.

My anxiety is really ramped up with the corona stuff going on so I know that's setting me off more than normal. So I know I may be just being overly sensitive and I'm sorry if my post sets anyone else's anxiety into overdrive. But is it possible to do a change to the editing feature?

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Re: Editing old posts - safety related
« Reply #4 on: March 14, 2020, 01:31:47 PM »
Yes, contact a moderator. You could also just hit REPORT POST and make the request on that form.

You can ask for your account to be deleted, but your posts will remain. However, this is still an option to consider, and here is why: when your account is deleted, your username will change to something like "Guest(number)". You will no longer have a profile, so nobody can just hit "Show all posts" for your account. So somebody stumbling upon your post would have to work to manually find your other posts, just by reading everything on the board.

If you delete, clear you browser history and eveything so there is no trace left on your device.

You'd want to choose the 3 posts that have the most identifying details to get rid of.

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Re: Editing old posts - safety related
« Reply #5 on: March 14, 2020, 01:34:35 PM »
Oh, also - you do what you need to do, but since you are feeling ramped up on anxiety, I recommend you wait and stick around.

If you have real reason to make a move, do it, but if you're just anxious, maybe just oull back on posting details about yourself snd wait and see.

Oh, btw, they do delete ALL posts after 5 years.
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Re: Editing old posts - safety related
« Reply #6 on: March 14, 2020, 01:52:24 PM »
 :yourock: thanks Lotus! You've given me good information. I'll sit with my questions and anxiety for a bit and see how I can work around it.

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Re: Editing old posts - safety related
« Reply #7 on: March 14, 2020, 03:01:57 PM »
Sounds like a plan  :)
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Re: Editing old posts - safety related
« Reply #8 on: March 14, 2020, 08:21:11 PM »
Mods - Could I get some help with this? Thanks

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Re: Editing old posts - safety related
« Reply #9 on: March 14, 2020, 09:02:27 PM »
the guidelines for mods/ admins editing posts are very specific and posted below.  deleting/ deactivating an account will not delete the posts associated with it, but it will make them not-searchable.  there is no plan to change the edit time frame for members to self edit posts.   please carefully consider what you are posting as members have the onus to be responsible to not out themselves. 

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Re: Editing old posts - safety related
« Reply #10 on: March 14, 2020, 11:33:14 PM »
there is no plan to change the edit time frame for members to self edit posts.

thank you.

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Re: Editing old posts - safety related
« Reply #11 on: March 15, 2020, 01:01:22 PM »
Reminder:
One administrative edit, of up to a maximum of 3 posts, will be given to each member.  After the first request, subsequent requests to edit posts by the same member will be denied.
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