Sometimes coparenting works well

[Poison Ivy]

I sometimes complain about my ex-husband on this forum. But right now, he is engaged in great coparenting: On short notice, he drove 1,000 miles to pick up our adult daughters and bring them back to our home state for the holidays. One daughter had a health crisis late last week, and the other daughter flew to be with her. I'm very grateful that in this emergency, my ex stepped up and is being very useful.

[Kat54]

It does feel good when there is good cooperation and being helpful when it comes to your children.

In the past it made me hopeful the relationship with my ex and I would improve. Though I have to always remind myself his kindness is usually fake toward me but that's ok as long as our kids are seeing cooperation and that we can get along for a short period of time.

[Latchkey]

Thanks for this Poison Ivy. It is good to have some place to also post when things are going well. For the most part things go well with my exN/ASPDH2 when it comes to co-parenting. I don't post here much anymore because of that. What is good to remember too is that you have laid the groundwork to make it so he can be a good co-parent and not the other way around. You've also done everything to be ready for when things fall apart. Hoping the best for you and your family over the holidays...

[Kat54]

It does make you hopeful relations with the ex can improve when there is parental cooperation.

For my ex and I we rarely talk but when I'm in town and I want to stop by and see my daughter he finally now answers my text or calls as I don't like popping in. And the last couple times I saw him he was actually pleasant to talk with. We talk usually about the kids and it's been all fine I'm happy to say.

[Poison Ivy]

My ex is at my house now; he'll be driving one of our children back home in a few days. I can stand having him here because we're cooperating as parents, but I have no desire to be married to him again.