Hello

[Blurredblossom]

Hey,

So grateful to have found FOG. I have been reading for a while but whenever I tried to introduce I did not find words.

I am in a relationship to a PD for over 20 years (married to that person for 10 years now). We both enjoyed spending our lives together, this was what I thought and he made me believe, yet I am not sure whether this was ever true.

Living with him lately has drained all my energy. Everything, I mean really everything centers around him.

I am learning more and more about vulnerable NPD, yet, this isn't making it any easier to stay. However leaving is not an option right now and would feel like running away. I come from a dysfunctional and chaotic FOO where toxic behavior patterns were the custom. 25 years ago I finally found the strength to go NC. And then I met my now husband...

I am glad to have found this place here, so maybe I will find the strenght I need to stay focused, keep my mind and find a way out of the isolation I am in.

Thank you for letting me share

[xredshoesx]

welcome @Blurredblossom

I'm glad despite all the chaos you found the the strength to find us and reach out.  I truly believe there is a link between those of us who were raised with PD/ uPD parents and repeating similar patterns with our partners as adults- that's pretty much what brought me to the group over 10 years ago.

we do understand and support our members in the decisions that are best for them in their unique situations- we have a dedicated area for those seeking support where leaving is not part of the plan
Comitted to Working On It


reach out when you can and if it's safe, check out the toolbox to get some more strategies to help you in your day to day. 

Toolbox 

we're listening when you are ready to share more-

[bloomie]

Adding another welcome to you, @Blurredblossom

I am so thankful you have reached out. You have taken an important step as you found the words to to introduce yourself and give us a tiny bit of a snap shot of what brings you here and what you are struggling with. That first step is very difficult. I remember that only too well.

You are not alone and this is a community of folks that understand and who will support you!

Take your time and settle in. When you are ready, we look forward to hearing more from you and supporting you!