Thanksgiving? What to do.

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I'm sorry to hear that but happy you are still keeping the youngest. Who knows, this might also be a foot in the doir for the older two being there more often, or dare I hope, eventually just staying with you.

[Gettintired76]

It's the middle one that lives with me, but I still have all three, all three are supposed to go back to with her tomorrow but she keeps giving excuses as to why they can't. She married the man 2 days ago without saying anything to anyone. My children are a mess right now my oldest has started talking about suicide and drug use, my youngest lashes out maniacally. She will not listen when any of them try to talk to her about the situation it's always "you are going to have a strong hard dose in reality when you get home", "you are going to learn not to disrespect me" and "it's what I want, so that how it's going to be" I m supposed to punish my son because he says he doesn't want to deal with her anymore. She tells him it's not his home to keep his opinion out of things, what her husband does isn't any of his business. My son (14) has come to me wanting to talk to the police. He wants to go to the psyche ward and get therapy, all he will say is it has to do with his private areas but doesn't want to talk about it. I'm trying to save up the $5000 dollars for my lawyer she claims she has one already and has all this stuff against me. She stated that once she gets the kids home I'm never you to see them again because my son spoke to his grandmother (her mom). I do know she plans to move almost 3 states away in March. It seems she is getting more and more unstable.

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Is there any way your son can get the help he asked for? Is he on any knd of insurance? If not, I think you should try to get a social worker involved asap. My heart breaks for all if you.

[Boat Babe]

Is there any way your son can get the help he asked for? Is he on any knd of insurance? If not, I think you should try to get a social worker involved asap. My heart breaks for all if you.

Please get social workers involved.

[Gettintired76]

I'm pretty sure she plans to give her new husband custody of the kids. All she told me the other day was that there were some big changes coming and neither me or our son were going to like them.

[Poison Ivy]

Can you remind us, Gettintired76? Are you the biological father of the children, and if you are, have your parental rights been terminated?

[Gettintired76]

I am the biological father of all three and no I have not signed my rights away.  She came to my mothers house tonight and it was a real shit show.  She claims she has pressed charges against my family for abuse ( my sister put her hand on the back of my youngest daughters neck and escorted her out of her room). I'm at my wits end she is lawyered up and has smeared mine and my family's name across 2 counties. I just don't understand what happened just 3 months ago we were soul mates and getting married and now I'm her worst enemy and I just don't even know her anymore. I never dreamed she would choose a man over her children. You'd think she would at least want her kids in her wedding. My son said her new guy doesn't even want the girls. I'm seriously about to either break down and cry or vomit. I just don't know what to do it's like she has total control over everything. I don't even have a right to keep my dog. She is coming to take her in a couple days and I have no say in it.

[Gettintired76]

So all three went back to her yesterday, I am no longer allowed to keep them as ordered by both her and my own family. My family's idea is for me to get custody just so I can give them to someone else. I have never been allowed to make my own decisions on anything, it's always been instead of actually getting everything set up and worked out, I'm just supposed to give up. Well I can't give up they are my children. Not some random toys I can't just discard.

[Poison Ivy]

Is there a court order for custody or placement?

[Gettintired76]

Not yet that I know of but she claims she has a lawyer that she has told I have child abuse charges in the other state we lived in... I don't. She has told them I have been abusive to her supposedly showed texts and photos proving it and has shown photos and texts of abuse to the kids from my sisters.

[Gettintired76]

Just suddenly in the past month she has decided to absolutely destroy everyone in her prior life, and is with him and his friend who is also a murderer. Leaves my 10 yr old alone with the "friend" whom she has known only a month. Just the speed of everything and how she has changed and what she has changed into it scares me. So many redflags

[Gettintired76]

Oh and one other the infections both of my daughters are constantly coming to my house with. My youngest has had at least three fingernail infections in the last 2 months. My middle one had a blister on her ankle no more thin a quarter inch that turned into a golfball sized infection after her mother had her for a week, she has had numerous bouts of strep, and both have had at least two bouts of urinary infection and yeast infection. My son has some kind of growth on his forehead that looks like some kind of wart or something.

[escapingman]

Getintired76, it is time for you to get your fighting gloves on. You don't have time to feel sorry for yourself, involve whoever needs involving (social, police, whoever), it seems like you have nothing to lose. I am rooting for you from the roof tops!

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Hon, you need to take action. You have described a very serious situation. In addition to all the physical, emotional, and medical stuff, all three of your children are showing red flags for sexual abuse.

People are always deciding things for you, you say. It's time to make your own choices. You can do this.

Your family will help you get custody - so you can give the kids to someone else? Great! Let them help you get a lawyer. Get custody. THEN THEY ARE YOURS. They try taking the kids call the police. TOO BAD, FAM.

Your ex will lie about you in court? GOOD. She'll be expected to provide evidence. Judges don't really like liars.

Get CPS involved. Call in the calvary. Your kids are asking you to. You can do this.

[Gettintired76]

I reread the declaration of paternity I and my ex signed for my son, not only has my so had my name since 2018 They also granted me joint custody of him. SMH it was never really explained to me at the time .

[Gettintired76]

I happen to have a copy of the paternity declaration for my son, his name was legally changed to mine in 2018 I did not realize this and she has continued to use her name on his paperwork, also it states we have joint physical and legal custody of him.  Now as for the girls at least as far as I have read even tho I am in fact on there BC's I still have to go to court to gain custody.

[Boat Babe]

I concur with everyone here. F**k her and go all out for your kids. Get police and social workers involved. Get some support for yourself as well. This is going to be difficult but you HAVE to do this.

Sending buckets of support and courage.

[Gettintired76]

I am speaking to my lawyer today, as for CPS that will be hard because she refuses to give me the address where she is now living.

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I'm so proud of you for contacting the lawyer.

CPS could still easily be involved. You can file a report. Your children probably know the location - hopefully you'll see them soon. There's also school records.

[Gettintired76]

She won't tell the kids the address because she doesn't want them to tell me. The BOE is on the hunt for I spoke to them this morning, it seems the kids have been truant while in her care and they had no idea she moved.