New year new me 2

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Right, what she says to you is 100% manipulation. She is fishing, devaluing you, trying to convince you that you've lost, that you have no standing, etc. It's just a boatload of crapola. Just a sample of the crapola floating around her head.

So do you have a new meeting scheduled or you're expecting to hear tomorrow? If you don't hear by afternoon you'd be smart to call them, before the weekend.

[Gettintired76]

She is claiming now that "the professionals" have declared my daughter is a sociopath and not autistic, that she is evil and manipulative and should be given up on for the safety of the other two.

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Lies.

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Btw, if you have that over text, the "professionals" should be quite interested in that statement from the mother.

[Gettintired76]

I do and an admission she she left the kids for over two months here and at their trailer up the street. But everything has been I did something to my D or my family. It's our fault she lost custody yada yada yada she can't do anything now and oh well at least now she'll get what she needs.

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I know it's easy for me to say and another thing to do it, but don't give her crap any space in your head. She is just manipulating you, nothing more.

What matters is evidence. I can't promise the system is fair or gets it right but evidence is what is supposed to matter. She can flap her gums all she wants but she's already looking like an unhinged liar to them - as she lost legal custody and is on probation for physical.

You can't stop her from making up stories about how it's your fault. But that's all it is. Stories.

She's spiraling. She is not in a strong position at all.

You could get into a strong position. You have the opportunity.

Don't take the lies of liars on board. Make a plan. Execute the plan.

[Gettintired76]

On it!

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[Gettintired76]

I spoke to CPS, they are pissed at her, they are actually getting the Director involved. None of what she said is true, and her saying they are catering to her and giving her confidential information could compromise every case they are working on. They said there are not now or ever been any accusations made against me or my family by her or my daughter, there is no nor has there ever been an investigation against me. They will be getting in contact with the school board here in my county to see that she can not be trusted with home school, and I told them explicitly what my plan was for my daughter, which they agreed wholeheartedly with. The supervisor is totally in with me on this. Oh and they never EVER said my baby was a sociopath and to give up on her. I wouldn't give up on her anyway, even is she was. Sociopaths can be treated and controlled in the proper environment, it's a mental disorder not a crime or death sentence.

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Remember this, next time she talks to you remember how it's always just lies lies lies. You may sort of believe her but then you always get confirmation that it's lies. Remember it so the lies don't affect you as much in the future.

I am glad you got confirmation of the lies. And of course they didn't say DD was a sociopath and to give up on her.

[Gettintired76]

I knew she wasn't hell she cried for four hours after watching Benji the Hunted simply because he got left out in the rain, lol the child has the biggest heart of anyone I ever met.

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Yeah, I can definitely believe that 

[Gettintired76]

With everything going on at court the other day the one thing that was on her mind was her dog and cat she wanted to make sure they were ok.

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What a sweetie she is.

[Gettintired76]

I plan on suing her county's  Social services and school board for infringement of rights they lied to me and the court they told the judge they didn't have my contact information after I gave it all to them the day after the "incident". Oh and my daughter the sociopath? Fell asleep in court. SMH

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I thought the sociopath thing was a lie from your ex.

[Gettintired76]

That is, they lied to me about keeping me in the loop and calling me about stuff. The were negligent when they handed him custodial rights without checking whether there were any orders in effect at the time.

[Poison Ivy]

I understand your anger, Gettintired76. But because so much is going on with your children, I recommend focusing first on protecting them (keeping them safe, getting visitation and custody, and so on).

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You might need a spot of cooperation from the school and faculty, which is typically not available, IME.

IF they'll be willing to make statements about your ex, perhaps you can forgive them for falling down on the job bc your ex gave them false and misleading information.  It's not the schools job to sort out custody orders and visitation arrangments. It's the job of the parents to get in there and advocate for themselves and their children,IME.

Don't get me wrong....I'd be upset too,but you have to look at this realistically.  Do you have the resources, time and mental capacity to to start a battle on a second front? Things get very confusing quickly.  The school might do what they can to punish you rather than make their mistake right and do their best by you.

[Gettintired76]

Yeah I agree with both you completely thank you for leveling me out your absolutely right. And I finally found a lawyer who seems to give a @&%#.He is going to handle it Pro Bono. Keep wishing me luck I absolutely need it.